Hi all.
What a roller coaster the past week has been. We've gone from WH's, "I think I should move out" to "I know I should write a letter to her breaking it off" to his realization of OW's real self (needy, manipulative, needs to be right all the time, a hypochondriac, lazy, wants WH to support her financially, etc.) He's still in the thinking stages and hasn't actually broken contact that I know of but he's been doing a lot of self examination. He also spoke at length with our 21 year old son who gave him some sage advice.
I've been doing a pretty good Plan A and I'm pretty sure it's working because he's feeling guilty that I'm being so nice and he's not returning my love. In fact, that's why he thought he should move out.
Is there anything else I should be doing at this time other than what I am doing? I feel the time is right to push a little yet I don't want to blow it. Experts please help!!!!

Things sound promising, Andi.

Just be careful - hope for the best, but expect less.

This is a dicey time. You may feel like giving an extra Plan A "push", but some BSs have related that being a little aloof in times like this also does the trick. Consider withdrawing a little. Be mysterious.

None of us here at a distance can tell you exactly what to do.

But we can tell you exactly what NOT to do - NO LBs!!! (But you knew this already, huh?)

He's gonna waver and you may think you made progress only to get frustrated because he won't make that last step back off the transporter platform (to the Mothership). When this happens, bite your tongue and don't LB.

WAT

No expert here but the tricky part of the fog is that it does lift from time to time only to return. It can trick you though and that's where you hear so many of us talk about the roll coaster.

As WAT said none of us can tell you exactly what to do but you really can't rush things. Personally I plan A him big time! It does work me and Mrs. E are living proof. It saved our M and I mean that.

Take care and always remember that IT'S A GREAT DAY TO BE ALIVE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey there Andi,
All good advice you've gotten.
Don't push. The WS gets easily defensive when the fog first starts to lift. This is when you especially want to be steadfast in your actions.

You want to be the sane one. You want to be the one that can be leaned upon. Button up, and Plan A to you're exhausted.

I'll be thinking of you. Remember, he has one manipulative controlling freak on his hands, you'll be seen in his eyes as very strong, and together, a saving grace, and a saving space for him. Hang in there.

Thanks guys. He hasn't brought up any relationship talk today yet. I'm curious as to where his head is at the moment but I know I can't push it or him. I do know he didn't see her at all today and I don't think he saw her yesterday either. That's progress. We went out for a nice dinner last night (his suggestion) - almost a "date"! There really is no animosity between us other than OW issues. That's why this is so bizzare!
Okay...onward with plan A!
"I think I can, I think I can, I think I can..." (The Little Engine That Could)
Andi