My WH is trying to contact me after serving me divorce papers from Las Vegas on Monday.

He left message that he received word I received the divorce papers and the letter attached and he is so sorry for the pain he has caused me. He said he would like to talk.

Well I'm not going to drop everything to pick up the phone and talk to him. I hope he won't feel neglected like he did in the marriage. I'm sure there is someone gladly there to meet his emotional needs <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Should I call him? If I do I'm not going to call until Saturday. At least its my day off and I don't have to worry about putting myself back together emotionally to go to work.

He should have of call before he served the D papers, not after. What a coward and a sneak.

DON'T CALL!

Make him wonder what you're up to. It's about time he did!

- Kimmy

I've been following your thread and am so sorry about the NV papers.

I would not dignify him with a call. Typical fogspeak... waffling until the bitter end... Has he shown up with a NC letter or something?? Now THAT would be a reason to talk maybe, but nothing else deserves your precious time, least of all his whining cr*p.

Any luck with residency investigation yet??

No NC letter. It was a letter attached to the summons.

Basically the letter was saying how I was to blame for the breakdown of our marriage.

It was my fault because I "encourage him to have his own interests", that I "neglected him because I had two jobs" (while he had none) and "he was lonely and his needs weren't being met."

The reason he didn't call me or tell me he was going to do this. He didn't want me to commit suicide or cause bodily harm to myself. Give me a break. BTW, we made a promise when we separated we wouldn't make any major decisions without talking to one another. Another promise broken, imagine that.

He told me I need to strengthen my love for the Lord. Major fog talking, because I didn't believe it was God's will that he and the OW was suppose to be together. God is into breaking marriages these days, in fact he broke up two marriages in my WH case. God got a bargain.

He told me he will always love me and he will always remember what we once meant to one another.

He just signed his named, no Love or even Best Wishes.

Now he wants to talk, because he sorry for all the hurt. A little late, I do wonder why he had sneak to Nevada and get a divorce. Anything to do with the OW divorce in June. I think after fourteen years I deserve a little more respect than a divorce summons from another state with a typed written letter attached blaming me for everything.

Next, he would want me to pay for his wedding to the OW.

Be careful honey.
It's possible that he wants to discuss some sort of settlement.
Since he abandoned the home and apparently so did she, they may not have much between them and it seems they've had plenty of time to discuss their needs financially as well as emotionally and physically.

1. Maybe he finally saw the OW without her make-up on and is now scared out of his wits, having 2nd thoughts in the twilight zone. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

2. Maybe he woke up on the mothership and is afraid of deep space travel. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Shhhhhhhhhhh

keep very quiet.... see if you can get him to squirm in the silence....

He's feeling OW's hand on his back and she is puuuuuuushhhhhhhing him

I suspect he's not a happy camper!

GOOD

The more misery he feels the sooner he returns from the land of the living dead.

See how desperate he gets trying to reach you.

$10 says OW is not aware he is trying to talk to you.

Pep

One of the reasons these relationships have such a short shelf life is....

One of the adulterors will eventually feel he / she sacrificed more than the other had to sacrifice in order to have the affair relationship.....

It begins with a serious IMBALANCE of who is giving up what from their former life.

And when the warts begin to show on the affair partner's character, the person who feels they sacrificed the greastest .... builds resentment.

You'll see......... it's about to get really ugly.

Keep your distance. They will chew each other up.

Pep

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