Day 11 I kept D again and WW did not call D like she said she will do........D was upset.......I called WW to tell her about a letter she got from the school HER JOB......WW was Pi**** that I opened her mail and wanted to talk to D.......I gave D the phone and WW made her feel guilty again........WW ask D if she is coming down tommorrow andtold D that she had a hair appointment for her.......She asked D if she should cancell it........D said I don't know........ I called lawyer and he said that I should take her to see Mother because the judge will frown on that........He told me that it is up to me not D of course........I did get a hearing date of AUG.24th..........He told me that if I did take D down there and WW tryed something that I could get an emergency coustody order.......... WW was real cold to me today on the phone...........

Hold your ground, Frank. There is no reason for D to go there. WW can come down and visit under your supervision. You already know its an unfit environment for a child, you don't need to test that truth. Don't let your W brow beat you into sacrificing the best interest of your D. There is no reason W can't come to your house.

Do you know where to take D for a haircut?

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd:
<strong> I gave D the phone and WW made her feel guilty again........WW ask D if she is coming down tommorrow andtold D that she had a hair appointment for her</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">\

Frank, you need to defend your D and tell your W to knock it off. Tell your W that D won't be coming down because it is an unsuitable environment for a child and if she wants to see her, she has to come to your house or meet some place. Tell your D you have made up your mind about this. Don't make a 10 yr old child take the heat for this decision, Frank.

Frank,
I replied to your other thread yesterday telling you that if your W believes that the choice is your D's, she will use this to manipulate her. Bingo, that is what is going on here!

You TOLD your W that your D did not want to come and that it was her decision. Now your W is trying to bribe your D by making a hair appointment. It's obvious to me what is going on.

The next time you speak to your W tell her that under NO circumstances will you have your D in the OM's home. Tell her that your D agreed to this but that it is YOUR decision in the end and that you will not change your mind.

As long as you are inviting your W to come to your home to see your D, I really don't see how the judge could hold that against you. I realize that your lawyer has advised you differently here and I do not understand it. Does he know the situation with the OM?

Remember, your W left your home and your D, you did not ask for her to do this.

You can take your D for a hair appointment this weekend, get her nails done too and see a movie. If your w wanted to spend time with her D, she would be offering to come where she is. Stand your ground Frank,Ladysing

Well WW just called and ask to speak to D ......When I got on line earlier, the hot mail link said that someone tried to access my hotmail from another pc...........So when WW asked for D I said I have something to say......First did you try to access my hotmail today.......she said no.....Then I told WW that I am dropping her off of my medical Insurance so now OM can put her on his.........( It will save me $175.00 a month).........Well when D got on the phone she asked D if she was coming down and D said I don't know........WW asked yes or no.......D said I don't know........Then WW sais then I will just cancel the appointment and hung up cring D said..............WW did not even wanrt to speak to me...............So did I do good..........I with drew out of the love bank today..............

Frank, please stop this now. Your D is being yanked around like a rag doll because you won't stand up for her. Call your W and tell her this:

"Meagan cannot come down to your house because it is an unfit environment for a child. If you want to see D, then you can come down here and see her while I am home or I will take her to a neutral place. So stop asking D if she can come down, BECAUSE I WILL NOT ALLOW IT. IT IS NOT UP TO D SO PLEASE QUIT ASKING HER.

We would love to have you, when can we expect you? "

<small>[ July 22, 2004, 07:27 PM: Message edited by: MelodyLane ]</small>

Well when WW calls tommorrow I will do that ...........I promise........Do you think I should have dropped her off my insurance.......

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by frankd:
<strong> Well when WW calls tommorrow I will do that ...........I promise........Do you think I should have dropped her off my insurance....... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well no. And here is why, Frank. If she gets sick while she is still married to you, the bills will come back and bite YOU because you are her H.

In principle, I agree with what you are trying to do and think it applies to most things, like car insurance, car payments, cc payments, etc. But with this, I think you should keep her on just for that reason alone.

Frank

Stand your ground , you are the sane adult here, remember that. You MUST protect your D. WW is too fogged up to "understand" your resoning.

Re: the insurance. Lawyer question. Sometimes the divorcee must pay their X's insurance. Did she say anything about it??

No WW did not say anything when I said that about Insurance.......I am going to wait untill sept to do that.........so I screw up again...........I not real good at all this stuff........I am new at it........

Frank, you didn't screw up, you are doing great! You need to pat yourself on the back! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

Frank, how are you today? Just checking up on you. I hope you have a pleasant weekend with your D. Keep us posted, Ladysing

Frank, hope you are ok today! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />