Thinking about you. Please post.

I've been thinking of you too. I hope all is well, or at least you have some answers to some of your Q.

Post an update, please.

Hi Turtlehead, have a greatday.

If I'm going to threadjack, I think I should at least pay some respects. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

KY

Hello Turtlehead and Kyellow4,

I've been lurking around here, but I haven't posted because I don't really have any new solid evidence.

I am still unsure of what is going on. I haven't heard anything of importance on my voice activated recorders. It has occurred to me that he might be changing his pattern on his trips. Instead of making a 48 mile round trip, he could be disguising his trips as a stop over from somewhere else -- such as his delay in coming home from the airport. It is possible that he might have had an encounter on Wednesday, July 14. He went to buy wine out-of-state. He did actually buy wine this time. I saw the wine and the receipt afterwards. He made a point of calling me at work before he left (rare) and buying something for me, too. However, I checked his mileage and it seems that he drove an additional 20 miles on that day over the distance to and from the store. He could have made a detour into the city afterwards for a rendezvous. Or it could have been nothing. I just don't know. I wasn't even that upset after the incident. (is it because I don't care anymore, my ADs are working, he is better at covering his tracks, he is being extra nice, or because nothing happened?) This is the only other bizarre activity that I've noticed. I really should get a GPS device.

I am still doing a pretty solid plan A. My AD's and checking in to MB to read posts really help me. My H has been extra sweet in the past couple of weeks. He has been more affectionate and has been initiating SF more. This is the closest that I've seen him as the old H that I remember and love.

As a matter of fact, I will be done with my classes this Thursday, and on Friday morning, H and I will be going to Punta Cana for a looong weekend to celebrate my graduation and birthday.

So, overall, I guess things have been going pretty well. I am sort of waiting for that other shoe to drop.

Thanks for checking up on me!

svb

<small>[ July 26, 2004, 03:54 PM: Message edited by: svb ]</small>

OK, I spoke too soon.

He went somewhere today. There are 55 miles on his car -- and he did laundry, although he already did laundry on Saturday.

I hate this. Things are never going to change. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

<small>[ July 26, 2004, 06:33 PM: Message edited by: svb ]</small>

Dear svb,

Bumping up to wish you a happy birthday and hoping you are OK....

LIR

Thanks, LIR

I have a new update that I am going to post on a new thread.

svb

svb, didn't know it was your Birthday, happy birthday to you. I just read your update today, I never seen it before this.

I'm sorry to have to say this, blast me if I'm completely off base, but could he be seeing a hooker?

I'm saying this because his questionable behavior is so spuratic, not of somebody who is deep in an A. One of the A partners should be very emotional attached, and be trying to make contact all the time, when every possible.

Sorry that is a very ugly thought, but I was just wondering if it might be a possibility.

KY

Hello KY,

Thanks. I did have a good birthday, despite everything.

I was not able to read your post until today. I had seen that you posted yesterday, but when I opened the thread, your post wasn't there! It was weird.

Yea, it makes sense. This whole situation does seem different than a normal A. I always thought it was strange that he didn't disappear more often, or we didn't get strange phone calls, etc. It doesn't seem that there is much of an attachment, if there is an A.

You want to hear something else? He is going away on a business trip on August 16. It is his first business trip ever. He was all excited about it until he found out that he has to share his hotel room with a co-worker, probably his boss. Now he says he either doesn't want to go, or he wants to go off and find another hotel to be in a room by himself and just pay for the room himself!

It just seems bizarre to me. Who cares if you have to share a room? I think he just wants more freedom for whatever. But I can't stop him from going, or keep him from getting a room by himself.

<small>[ August 05, 2004, 12:36 PM: Message edited by: svb ]</small>