I am feeling better to day .Me and Meagan are going to C tonight at 6:00 not 4:00.......Meagan is real upset because WW is not coming.....I called WW this morning and told her she was welcome to go along and WW said that is ok she will go to her own C ........I said that is fine and I will let the Dr, know..........I told WW she could meet us afterwards she is suposed to call us and let us know..............

I just called WW again to tell her that C was at 6:00 and not 4:00..............OM answered the phone.( this time I did not hang up) I said let me speak to WW and he said she ain't here ..........Click.......I wonder does this pi** him off when I call...........

So, your WW answered the phone when the OM was not there but told you that she would not go with you to c. You invited her to join you afterward and to call later and let you know.

Now, you call and the OM is at home, he hangs up on you.

Yep, he's mad alright. His fantasy affiar is being disrupted by real life issues. Don't call again, she knows where you are. They are probably arguing about all of it.

You and your D need to go the the appointment at 6, have some dinner before or after and focus on the two of you right now. Your WW does not want to work on repairing her relationships with you, and her life with the OM seems to be unraveling. Let it happen and give her time.

I am glad you are feeling better today, focus on what you CAN control. Keep us posted, Ladysing

Yep, sounds like the fantasy is feeling real life issues over there with WW and OM. I suppose that's a good thing for her to see him angry. That's no fantasy world. Just wait and stay focused. Do what you're doing and good luck.

We went to C tonight just me and Meagan.......I went in first for a 1/2 hr them D went in for her1/2 hr.........I told C about whats been happening with ww and everything else.......I tolh what was said today to w.....I told what the lawyer said about takeing D down to mom's.......How D does not want to go down there.......C asked me if I think D could have seen something or someone bothered her......I told C that was her job to find out......I went back in after D and C said that she told D that D and me and Mom need to meet somewhere and D needs to also tell WW about how she feels about going down there............I did not hear from WW tonightand I did not call her ......If she calls I am going to tell WW about meeting me and D some where to talk................C said she will give me a letter for custody hearing on the 24th .....If I need her she will come for a fee that is......She is a very good C she believes in all the stuff that is going on here..........and has all the books which you can borrow for 2 weeks at a time........I asked for." her needs his needs" and she will get it back from another person............

Excellent Frank!

You and Meagan were able to talk about your situation and get some validation that you are doing the right thing.

Be sure to get the letter from the C for the custody hearing, it will make a big impact on the judge. Your W is not going to be able to produce anything to back up her situation because she is not doing anything to make it better. Even better for you.

I agree that if your W call, you should ask her to meet you and Meagan somewhere to discuss things. Don't go to the OM's house, keep it neutral so she does not feel threatened.

Document every conversation and take this to the hearing. Ex; today I asked her to join us in counselling, she refused and the OM hung the phone up on me. etc. Be sure that you can provide dates and instances of your W's refusals to make arrangements to see her D.

You are doing great Frank! Ladysing

Frank, you are doing good. You are a very good daddy for taking such good care of Meagan. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

thank you ladysinger I will keep track and stand tall.......I will wait for her to call me now ..D will go back to mom's tommorrow........Pray for me,,,,,,,,,,,

Thank you again .......I will do good and I feel good about the whole thing...........

frank - Hang in there, you are doing much better. Please keep it up.