Hi

Mywife has been having an affair. Yesterday I returned home early from a two week trip to find that the other guy was sleeping in my bed. The reality here is our marriage has been badfor many years. I cheatedon her several years ago, she knew, but I always lied. Last night during our "cathasis" I came clean. I have hurt her so much over the years. I have been trying to change for eight weeks since I found out about the affair. There are no more lies. I am hiding nothing. She told me last night that there was no way to ever get past this one. We have been married for 17 years. I love her with all of my being, but never was able to show it. She now loves me but is not in love with me. She is in love with him now. Does anyone have any suggestions on how to save this? Oneof us will be moving out this week. I hope it is not final. Please help me! I love her and I want to spend the rest of my life with her and make her happy.

Paul