I have only posted a few times, but wanted to share some good news.

First though, I have been lurking and doing a lot of reading. There seems to be quite a bit of negative talk going on lately between BS's and WS's. I think each case is different. In some cases, I'm sure both can be responsible (BS and WS). In some cases, I'm sure the BS is responsible. In some cases, I'm sure the WS is responsible. Each M is different. I disagree that with every A, both BS and WS are responsible. Just my 2 cents.

My good news now- because I got strength from both BS and WS advice here, and reading other posts, I was able to communicate with H about the 2 EA's (which I was terrified of doing before). I realized that I pulled away from M due to these EA's (was mentally preparing for D)- probably love bustering and H anger problems. We are now finally working on our M together. As far as I know, the EA's no longer exist. The best part- honesty- we now know what eachother has been thinking.

Thank you everyone for your words of wisdom. I'm sure I will still need advice, but just wanted to share some good news and say thank you for the help.

koala - It is great to hear good news. I think all of us here need it. Thanks for posting, and for the encouragement.

Thank you.