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#1164219 07/28/04 10:05 AM
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Haven't posted in a while I've been on a trip to find jobs and houses in another state. My FWW is really working on things. She's still confused and scared, but at least she's decided that she can't follow her emotions and fears. She's even started to open up to me about her feelings and she seems to be starting to climb over the mountain of Conflict Avoidance. This has been a problem for a long time. She would choose not to tell me things or lie to me to avoid conflict. Thank God, she's starting to tell me things that normally would've sent me over the top and I'm not blowing up... and she's noticing. It's only making it easier. Things are getting much more normal around here. We're closing things down here in Florida and moving out to a new life, home, new everything!
I'm excited, but she's not yet. But, at least she knows in her head that it's right and she's following that. I told her and the MC told her that the emotions would follow once we made decisions to move forward.

I'm very proud of her! I've tried to put myself in her shoes and it has really helped me to know how to act. I love her so very much and I am determined to be the best husband I can be and I believe God can heal our marriage and home.

Right now I'm waiting on pins and needles for a wonderful job opportunity for me. They're supposed to call me today. Pray for this situation, there's a lot hinging on that decision.

I will be continuing to post and read, but I truly believe the most hellish part of things is behind me>>> hallelujah!!!

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#1164220 07/28/04 10:10 AM
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RWS,

I'm glad to see you back....was just wondering about you yesterday! I am REALLY happy for you....you sound like a different person and it's so cool to see. When one of us "wins", we all do...it's the best form of encouragement around!
I'll say a prayer for that job you want....

Amen!

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#1164221 07/28/04 10:45 AM
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Hello RWS,

great to hear you're doing better!
So the ol' Klingon has gotten on speaking terms with his inner Betazoid.. not a bad team is it? (I hope you're not thinking I'm making fun of you here ! I've been too much Betazoid for my own good.. I'm implementing a bit of Klingon <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> to protect my boundaries!)

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I think it's funny that you remembered my analogy about me being a Klingon. But, that is the best way I could describe it. And, no, I didn't think you were making fun of me. I have a hard time understanding operating by emotions. I believe that you follow God, and you follow logic, but not your emotions.

Thanks for your encouragement.

Out!

#1164223 07/28/04 04:19 PM
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Congrats RWS. Will also pray about your job. Thanks for the smile today. It is raining here (I mean the weather) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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Good going, RWS. I'm happy for you.

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