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HURTING!!!!!!!!!
#1164257 07/28/04 01:27 PM
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Is being a good wife and loving mother enough to save my marriage? My H says that I should want more for myself other than being a wife and mother. Why is he trying to change who I am????? His A just ended 8 days ago. I guess he's still really in the FOG!!!! Just beginning !!!!
What can I expect in the next few weeks? He's moved out and I'm so lonely and hurt.
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Why has he moved out, was this before the A ended, or just recently??? Does he have plans to move back in with you?? Did he end the A because he was ready to reconcile???

Sorry, I'm asking way too many Q. {{{hug}}}

I'm a wife and a mother, never wanted more out of life for myself, but maybe he is saying you need more to fulfill you than what you are getting out of that. For instance a hobby.

I know for my H it is hard for him to be my only form of entertainment. I needed to have friends and hobbies for myself, to make me happy and feel rejuvenated.

His A just ended that is great, but the ride is not over. He will probably struggle with NC, and go through withdrawals and have extreme regret which can lead to depression.

I wish you the best on your recovery. I'm sorry you are hurting.
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Thank you for responding.
He moved out because he said he needs to be alone and get his head straight. He says he wants to miss me and eventually start "dating" again. I can understand all of that but I feel like I'm being abandoned all over again.

He gives me missed signals....sometimes good other times bad. I guess he needs to get out of the FOG phase first.

The OW called him yesterday and he told me about it. She wanted to see him and he told her No. I guess that's a good sign huh?

I do have hobbies and do lots of things with friends. I know that he wants me to get a job. Finances have been trouble for us in the past. I'm trying to find a job and am hoping that they will help also.

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