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The other day my BIL got a letter from H saying he was to let me know that we (H & I) cannot be friends or be in contact until we have both completely moved on with our lives. He with OW and me with someone else. That he's never been happier. Well, is this fog or what? Does this mean that not once in 13 yrs. was he ever happy and it took OW to come along to make him see that? Now that OC is in the picture our life together was a lie? Do I believe any of this? How come he gets to decide what happens in my life? Why didn't he have the guts to tell me this himself? (I did see the letter). About 3 yrs. ago H had to do a self analyasis for a counselor and one of the things he admitted to was how his whole world could be falling apart and he would let everyone think everything was fine. Fog as well? My question, should I just let this go or should believe it? I was trying to do a good Plan A.
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i'm not sure i'd say it is thick fog my H said soem mean crazy things last year when in the midst of his affair things that to this day can make me sad to think of. i think its the fog.
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He just wants you to find some one else to make himself look better.Do you have any children from WH.........He is in the same deep fog my WW is in.Don't sweat it Believe half of what you see and none of what you hear...........Trust me it's all bull...............
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This is all fog talk. Just let him keep on keeping on with OW. The fantasy will end.
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FOG FOG FOG!!!!
I thought I had true happiness with OM. It was all a joke. He will come to his senses, hopefully sooner than later!
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FOG FOG FOG!!!!
I thought I had true happiness with OM. It was all a joke. Thank goodness the fog has lifted or I would be in a world of hurt!
He will come to his senses, hopefully sooner than later!
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It's hard to do Plan A with all the fog. Yeah, I was thinking if I did find someone else then H could say, "See how well everything turned out for everyone." What a crock of crap! Sure don't have to take responsibility then.
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You've been doing Plan A for a bit..Have you considered if/when you will go to Plan B?
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I wanted to do a good Plan A first. Plan B will follow when I feel Plan A was at least somewhat successful.
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