I am feeling so down tonight. I want my H back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don't know who this man is that comes by to see our son. He came by today and was really down. I asked him if he was ok and he said he was just really depressed. A part of me wants to hug him and let him know that I am here for him and that I want to work things out but then the other part of me is so angry that I want to lash back and say things like "You wouldn't be depressed if you hadn't done the things you did." I feel like by doing Plan A I'm being a doormat. Help me!!!!!
I DO NOT want a Divorce!!!!! I just don't know how we're going to get through this. How do you even begin to rebuild after an A???? Any advice?????????? I'm feeling really lost and lonely tonight..

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Hug to TreeReich,

I am sorry you are feeling down, but I am glad you came to MB. I understand how you miss your old H...I miss my old H too. I see him sometimes in the fog and hope he will make it out.

If you have not read all the articles available on the web site re: Plan A etc, you may want to give those a look. Also, reading Surviving an Affair will help you alot. Those articles in addition to some tips from the board and IC/MC will help you get through this. Info on the Marriage Builders Weekend is listed on the home page of this site. This is a long process, but it shows you a way to have a chance to recon and not divorce. It will take lots of patience and strength, but it can be done.

Hugs and blessings to you. Hang in there and come here often to get help and support on your journey.

SS

Thanks for the hug! I needed that!
I ordered the book Surviving an Affair. Can't wait to get it.
Unfortunately the seminars are not near me.
I doubt my H would want to go anyway. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

You have such an old member number, and only 45 posts. What is your story? You have been a member since 2000. Have you and your H been separated since then?

Hang in there, girlie. We are all here for you.

Another SS <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oh yeah, and BIG {{{{{{{{{{TreeReich}}}}}}}}}}!!!

Treerich I can't help you, am in exactly the same position. Heartbroken and clueless and worst of all Loveless. I realised in the night that without my W there is no adult on planet earth who loves me right now. That is a devastating thought. 40 years old, always lived the best life I knew how and utterly loveless in the world. Why did I deserve this ?

Bob,
Yes, I've been a member since 2000. H and I started having problems so I posted on here. I didn't check it much at that time though. My H told me last week that he's been having an A. I wanted to move away but he wanted me to stay here so he could see our 8 yr. son and go to counseling. We've been married for 14 yrs.
He says the OW fell in love with him but he didn't with her. He has moved out and is staying with his brother. Everytime I say I just want to move back home near my parents he say "I thought we were working on it." I'm just so confused!!!
He says he wants to live away from me so he can start to miss and fall back in love with me all over again by dating . I just don't see how that is going to work. Any input into that???
I asked him if there was still C with OW and he said no. She has called him once asking hi to come and see her and he told her no. He said he told her he really wants to give his marrigae a chance. The thing I just don't understand is if he wants to give his marriage a chance then why did he move out and why is he still acting so distant???? I wish this would all just GO AWAY!!!!