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Ok, flame me, flame me...flame me.... I don't care. I want to ask and say a couple of things.
Your husband. He married you. He promised to stay by you. He gave you children. He promised to be faithful to you. He promised to stand by you. He promised to be your best friend. He promised these things while you stood in front of god, your family, his family and and friends.

Suddendly, he cheats on you. Everything he has ever promised you is a lie. You find it is because of "a fog". A fog? What exactly is a fog? Do you mean a fog in relation to losing his children? A fog in relation to losing finacially everything he has ever worked for? So, you threaten him with these things? Lets face it...if he was happily married he wouldn't have broken all these promises that he made.
So, I lurk on this board to see all these sad betrayed spouses: keyloggers, Private dectives, voice recorders hidden in cars, lie detector tests, body fluid tests, recorders, cameras, following a spouse, having a friend follow a spouse, checking for evidence of another woman: scents, body fluids, checking mileage, control over cell phones and pager bills.
I can't help but think: Are you serious??? I mean really? Its so pathetic! My MM, once he was caught, still found various ways to meet me and call me.
Yes, Let me guess "but I love him...but we have children!" You think the OW is pathetic? Well, at least we had control over our situation...and once you had control (hence, called D-day) you are even more pathetic than before! Chasing him around like some fool! Believing his lies when he told you he wanted to work on the marriage......yeah right! Let me tell you something.....he is still calling her and he is still seeing her. When he has sex with you...he is still thinking of her. Get some pride!! Your husband lied to you. He cheated on you! He degraded and humilated you. I guess anyone that would stay with a man that does that to her deserves it! Trust me...it never stops, even when he promises that is has!

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Hee hee hee, Iamfine - you obviously know NOTHING!

Troll!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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I know I shouldn't even bother, but...


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> My MM, once he was caught, still found various ways to meet me and call me. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And you wonder why the BS checks up on the WS?


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Well, at least we had control over our situation </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You really believe this? Being with someone on their terms, who will only see you when they feel like it, who chooses to only give you a small piece of him is having control? Ooooooookay. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

What it all boils down to...

You are NO better than the BS. You believe just as many (if not more) lies. You put up with the same sh**. You choose to stick around after d-day, knowing that if he really wanted to be with you, he would.

Methinks you are just a bitter OW whose MM dumped you when it came time to choose.

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luvbird . . . hee hee hee . . .

I agree with you!

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<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Thanks SS. I know I probably shouldn't have bothered--someone that bitter is not going to even be able to comprehend it. But hey, gotta release some of the pregnancy hormonal stuff somewhere! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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Right and when he hooked up with you, he learned how to be more devious. R U skilled at those traits? Where did you learn how to be sooo evil?

Of course there was a reason why the spouses turn to WS'. At the base of it all (after all is said, analyzed and done) it is greed. Pure selfish greed. Then it ends up with 2 greedy people hurting innocent ones. Not perfect but innocent ones.

Why do you do this? Here's another crazy question: Who taught you how to do this? You appear to be a teachable. But why waste your time and energy on a greedy, selfish and very temporary foggy insanity?

If you were that great, you could go get yourself a partner for life instead of stealing what is not yours.

BTW, you asked why does the BS try so hard to get the WS back? Because besides the WS you have helped morph, the BS sees the real person. The insanity and fog is temporary.

Go back to school but this time choose a school which gives positive education. One where you can live a fulfilling and productive life. That will keep you out of the prison you have created for you and your OP.

You also won't have to pretend to be married. In fact, you won't have to play house, you can have a real home and family with trust and love.

Oh yea, welcome to MB. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

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Iamfine,
I'm not sure you are!
He promises OW he will leave his W. He doesn't - he lies to OW too. A man who usually has morals behaves out of character- Why? Call it what you may we call it 'Fog'. Lets face it...if he was unhappily married he would leave the M not have an A. Saying the M had a problem is part of the Fog, the guilt, the denial. Otherwise he would fix the problem not create a bigger one.
Yes, you're right " I love him...and we have children!" Yes, I think the OW is pathetic? Do you think sneaking behind peoples backs and living in secret is control. That's all about hurting someone else and getting an ego boost from it. You get some pride and get your own man!!
</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> When he has sex with you...he is still thinking of her....Trust me...it never stops, even when he promises that is has! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">You are so wise about what he is thinking when he is not even with you.
Wise up honey hurting other people doesn't make you feel good. Ruining families and the lives of others isn't hard but unnecessary. One day it will happen to you and then you will understand the other side till the I say again- Find your own man!!!!
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> When he has sex with you...he is still thinking of her </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ooooh I missed that the first time! ROFLMAO!!!

Whassamatter honey, did he call out wife's name at an "inopportune moment"??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

I know, I'm easily amused...

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> My MM, once he was caught, still found various ways to meet me and call me.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> I guess anyone that would stay with a man that does that to her deserves it! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Are you serious??? I mean really? Its so pathetic! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Trust me... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Well, at least we had control over our situation... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">If you're happy, why not just enjoy it???? I don't "get it"..............
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Get some pride!! </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">When he has sex with you...he is still thinking of her. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Have you ever seen a "guy" that thinks during "Sex"???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> (oppps, sorry guys!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> )

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<small>[ July 30, 2004, 03:15 AM: Message edited by: blondblossom ]</small>

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Wow, what a horrible post. But I'm not surprised. Most OW deceive themselves into thinking that they "have control" over something that they clearly have no control over. And most OW have alot of anger, hatred, and fear because they are totally living a lie, deceiving people, and telling themselves it's okay and it's all about "love." I also think there's a lot of jealousy towards the wife... the OW knows she is easily dispensible and lacks the rights of a wife and the bonds that the MM shares with his wife.

And isn't it the OW that has no "pride?" She's willing to deceive people and to see a man who has a wife? There's no pride in that if you ask me.

She thinks she has "control," but in reality, she is controlled... she is controlled by her hormones and emotions (similar to an adolescent teenager who hasn't reached the point of maturity where they make decisions based on wisdom and reason-- such as, this man is married and thus I am not going to have sex with him-- vs. emotion).

"Iamfine" said: "I guess anyone that would stay with a man that does that to her deserves it!"

That is just pure maliciousness and hatred. This post reflects the jealousy (towards her MM's wife) and inner turmoil and fears of this woman, knowing that she is her MM's "side" woman and not his wife.

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OK IamFine, you post to me. I dare you.

I've been married 30 years and I had an A. What a crock of sh** that turned out to be. Gosh, my H turned out to be the most perfect man in the world. Bet that surprised you.

I'm not a betrayed wife, but I was an OW (but not any more) what do you think of that? Because, guess what, there are more than just betrayed wives on this board, bet you didn't know that.

And what do you think of the jerk OM I got involved with? He's your oh so wonderful MM (I don't mean yours personally, I mean in general). Do you actually know what pain is? Do you actually know what it's like to hurt someone else? Do you actually know what mature love is like? I doubt it.

I've edited this because I've thought of more stuff. Of course he'll find a way to see you, gee who wouldn't want cheap sex. But I'm betting his wife is getting the real him. You know, the one with the dirty socks and who adores his kids and will never leave for some piece of a@@ because that's all you are to him, Iamfine.

Oh, its so sad it's pathetic. Troll, troll, troll.

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Guys this same poster was over on survivinginfidelity.com doing this exact same thing.

The river must have washed this troll's bridge out and she went hunting for a new place to haunt. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

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Troll. You've been reported.

I'd encourage everyone to ignore posts like these. They are meant to inflame you for entertainment purposes.

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Don't y'all just love to take those trolls and spin them really fast in between both hands, until their hair stands straight up.

I found new shame in being FOW/FWW, if it means I'm in the company of the likes of you.

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Is there a Ho-bag convention in town? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

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