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Debating giving WW plan B letter when she picks up the last of her furniture tonight. I feel like I have done plan A (though short) and she knows where I am coming from, what she needs to do, and the fact that I will not judge her if she comes back. I do feel that a plan B letter would really make her think with me completely out of the picture. She has been able to talk with me usually about once a week or more so she must feel like I am there. Without that contact she will be left to herself and OM which IMO will get very depressing since it is already not going well. Anybody have opinions on this for me?
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Juke, you should ask a Harley. I expected JH to tell me to go to plan B since my WW had filed, and she advised me to stick with plan A until the D date gets closer.
Yours is coming fast. You certainly don't want to wait until the D is final! I think you should probably do it. But MB forum people seem to be more plan-B-happy than the Harleys, so be careful about that.
Ask a Harley. Scrape together $185 and do it.
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If she said that to you I assume the advice would be the same for me. I am so broke right now that I don't know if I want to do it if I will just be told, stick to plan A. Doesn't it seem like plan A will keep our WW's feeling like we are there (cake-eating)until D is final? Did you ask anything about that?
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Well, my D won't be final until sometime around the end of the year. JH did say something about going to plan B a month before the thing is final.
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In that case I guess I need to stick to Plan A Until late August. Ouch. It will be tough, but I can handle anything at this point. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
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Oh yeah GC, forgot to ask. Has your WW taken all of her things out of your house yet?
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