I came up with an idea for our business, where he can have sole ownership and I can still profit and have contact with some of his clients. At first he was weary of the idea, but more he thought about it he actually liked it.

He wants me to write a letter stating the idea and he will talk to his lawyer on Monday on how we can get this done.

Last night, we must of talked for a least a couple of hours. We decided to work together in this divorce. Later on it the conversation he admitted he misses me and has been thinking about me and the good times we once shared.

I wanted to save the marriage, but since we have a week to go, it doesn't seem possible. I want to end it on good terms, maybe go back to plan A. If we could work together and compromise, maybe I can start trusting him again. If this can end on friendly terms and maybe we can built a friendship which could lead to even more. I'm not counting on it. I'll be moving on with my life but I still would like him to be a friend. Our relationship is so special, I couldn't imagine him not being in my life in someway. I'm putting everything into God's hands.

I know the odds are better for remarriage than the WS and OP relationship to last. The only regret I have I wished he waited a little more time than four months to end the marriage.

BTW-Not once did we mention the OW. This was about us and only us.

I like the idea of a truce - it creates an atmosphere of peace, harmony.

I hope this is a turning point for your relationship.

Shul

Don't make it too easy for him, else he won't have to face any consequences at all.

Business is business, but why would you have a friend whom you can't trust? Don't compromise your standards! Behavior as a friend predicts behavior as a partner.

I wish you the best, but this comes to mind: "Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

WAT,
I need your help on my topic called Help, this forum....I remember your wise words, need some more advice.

WAT,

I know I made a compromise with him, but the outcome was a win-win situation for us without paying pricey lawyers to fight it out. I also know the lawyers would not have come up with my idea since we have an unique business.

It just didn't make sense to fight for a business when we are both in debt and the business is not a big money maker. I did have close relations with some of his clients and wanted to stay in touch with them through the business.

As for consequences, he is thousands of miles away from family that doesn't trust him and he is so much in debt. I know he is unhappy by the sound of his voice, but this is the life he choose. He left a loving wife and family who adored him for a the OW who will end up destroying his life (if she hasn't already).

The only thing I can do is keep growing as a person and let him know I will always be here for him, if only as a friend. Even though I don't want the divorce, I'm willing to settle so I can move on. The Divorce will become final I believe on August 8th. Even if I fight it, the divorce will still go through, we would be fighting over the assets. If we are meant to be, then somewhere down road he will enter my life again. As I said I'm leaving it up to God.