The movie starts out with Depp's character finding his wife sleeping with another man. The adultery of his wife is a big part of the plot. It was weird to watch. But I can tell that I have healed so much because I laughed at several interactions between Depp and OM. A few months ago I would have cried. Anyone else seen it?

I saw it Juke. With my WW no less. At the time I didn' realize she was cheating though. It was painful to watch actually, even then.

Yeah TJ. There were parts in Secret W where I was talking to the screen like "why the hell does OM need to be there? That is ridiculous etc." After this happens to u it changes the way u look at things.

I also watched Unfaithful with my WW in the theatre when everything was fine. Then about a month before A it was on HBO and I was watching it and she said, "that movie disgusts me. Turn it off. How could a woman do that to her husband?" I was like, ok calm down and changed it. A month later she went back on everything she believes for the scumbag OP.

The ending was great, if you fantasize about the downfall of the affair couple.

You got to eat alot of corn, though.
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Yeah. Them getting theirs was definately fun to watch.

So Juke - I got Unfaithful from Netflix a while back, but some [censored] screwed up the disc (every DVD with sex scenes seems to arrive all nasty and scuffed - blech). I saw Richard Gere kill the OM, but what happened to his W?

And has anybody seen a movie with an affair where the WS was realistically foggy?

GC

I saw that terrible movie Lost in Translation, which, is basically these two people having an EA...and I wanted to puke!

Then, I watched Under the Tuscan Sun, and wanted to move to Tuscany. At least that way, I could have my way post D with some hot Italian boy.

::Sigh::

I HATE ADULTERY!

Hey GC- His wife wound up ending the affair with a message that Gere found after already killing the guy. That movie was pretty realistic I thought with the fog. The WW was in total denial and just fantasizing about next contact with OM when she was at home. She never left her husband though. When Gere met OM and talked to him the OM knew all about him. Gere said, You talk about me? Gere also asked what they do together and she was doing stuff with OM that she didn't do with him anymore. After the affair was out in the open Gere said, I didn't hate him (OP) I hated you! Makes sense because a lot of us blame OP more than we probably should. Our WW's r the ones who really blew it. These guys are idiots but that's all they r. They didn't rape our wives, our wives were ready and willing.

Also, in Secret Window the WW had a lot of anger and resentment towards Depp. She also brought OM around Depp and involved him as if it was no big deal. Kind of like what my WW was doing (bringing the guy to our church!) in the beginning of this. She wouldn't do that now.

What about the movies that make the betrayed spouse out to be the bad guy and WS out to be 100% victim? I watched A Perfect Murder since D-day which I had seen before. The new version with Michael Douglas and Gwenneth Paltrow. I couldn't believe how they romanticize her affair with the con man and then it focuses on Michael Douglas character as a villian. Well, his character had his own bad intentions after the affair, but I just hate the way they show adultery in a lot of movies, which breaks marriage down even further in our culture. Ohhh, affairs are so exciting and fun etc. When actually they r devastating and many times more devastating to the WS in the long run IMO.

I saw "Unfaithful" just before my d-day and it made me sick. Haven't seen Secret Window--have it on my Netflix list but now will probably take it off. Every reference to ifidelity on TV and movies rips the wound open again and pours salt inside. Do ws's feel anything when they see the same thing? Does it make them feel guilty, uncomfortable, anything? or is it actually titillating because it reminds them of there secret?

I bet it just depends on the WS. I know (or think I know) my WW will avoid those movies like the plague because it will make her feel guilty. I like the idea that there are contant reminders out there for her to see. That is a major consequence. Some foggy WS's may get off on it though.

Just as her EA was starting, the sparrow got Lost in Translation on Netflix and watched it over and over. Right before she bailed out on me she watched The Age of Innocence. This stuff gave her comfort in what she was doing, absolutely.

I still love The Age of Innocence though. Sorry to say. The "true love never dies" part of it is hooey, but it's such a good movie.

I still can't watch anything with relationships. I saw The Bourne Identity and the first 15 minutes was almost too much for me. Spider Man II, silly as it was, was almost too much.

After I figure out my keep-my-house budget I should start Netflix again though. I miss it. And maybe I'll do the typical getting-dumped-by-your-wife thing and get an awesome flat-panel TV on a credit card. I haven't bought a TV in ten years.

GC

Yeah- They do get comfort in those movies. I know my wife was very influenced by Sex and the City. Watched it all the time. The "do whatever u feel at the time in your heart" mentality. Do it no matter what the consequence or people u hurt because u are entitled to. Sleep with married men, cheat on your husband, be a whore it's ok. U can pick up the pieces later. I may be offending women out there but I really hate that show.

GC- You should go buy the tv. I have a 52 inch widescreen HDTV and theatre sound system (which I fought to keep) and it does help me have some fun entertainment during these dark days.