In response to July 30th posting about "Why would anyone stay with a cheater?"...
Kat 72...Your posting mirrored my feelings exactly. Thanks for making my day! I thought I was being weird to feel the way I was but I can see I'm not alone. Keep in touch.
mgm...Right on! My H's one night stand proved to both of us just how strong our marriage really was and it was worth saving. He risked a lot to come clean but I believe it was truly a test from God - a test of our love and faith in Him and in one another. Drnken madness, moment of weakness, darn poor choice, however I characterize it, I had to look past what happened and past the hurt, anger and disappointment to come to a decision. It wasn't even a hard one to make. If the good Lord can forgive human frailities and indsicretions, so could I.
shay919...I couldn't walk away either. Somehow in dealing with the mess in my head I realized there was a difference between lovin' for a night [if you can call it that] and lovin' for life. I'm not condoning what my H did, just looking at it from the standpoint of a wife who believes when she said "I do" she did and I promised to stay for the long haul, good or bad.
Spider Slayer and weaver...Ditto! In a curious twist, H's one night stand reaffirmed he was still the man I married - open, honest, no secrets, no lies. He never strayed before and hasn't strayed since. He also didn't have to tell me but he chose to. That means something in my eyes. As your words so eloquently put it: We are best friends, best lover, partners and we both know we are better people when we are together than when we are apart. I couldn't have said it better.
