Kicked WH out last Thursday (as I posted yesterday).

He came by and dropped in on me yesterday afternoon after I got home from a trip to his sister's house.

I told him that I would no longer be a part of his triangle. That he needed to break it off with OW, then we could talk.

He called me again after he left...told me how beautiful I was, how he couldn't leave me, blah,blah,blah....

I have written Plan B letter to send him. Haven't been able to do anymore exposing of the A today - have been too busy at work.

He has usually called me every morning, and every evening, and at least a couple of times during the day.

He hasn't tried to call me at all today.

He doesn't know that I won't answer the phone when he calls. But is this some new kind of mind game?

Is he trying to get me to call him?

This all seems like a big game. But my resolve is firm. Sometimes I feel like calling him, but I WILL NOT!

I don't recall your story, but did you do a good solid Plan A? It sounds like you are still exposing the A. Exposing and Plan A go hand in hand and should be given the opportunity to work or at least plant seeds before moving to Plan B. I see a lot of people on this board recommending Plan B all the time. However, when you read what the Harleys say and hear what people say who talk to them, Plan B is not always the solution or at least not something to be jumped into. Do you have a Plan in place that was devised by your head not your heart?

To answer the queustion it is a game to the WS (jmho) WHEN they are a cake eating fence sitter .

SEE you just told him you 2 can talk after OW is out of picture , so he did alittle sweet talkin now he will lay low to see if you can resist him .

See if ya call him and say whats wrong you call me every morning what happened then he would know your not seriuos .

THE next thing is he may not call for a day or 2 , then when he does he will call you and start saying things like he was busy or ask why haven 't ya called ? I missed ya .

AND yes I agree sometimes people do PLAN B before there ready for it . I do not think it should be done until you the BS is ready to deal with it .

JMO , you need to finish exposing the A , before entering FULL plan B . CALL OW , tell all family and all freinds .

ok enough from me , talk later.

Girl, you are threatening his position as a cake eating fence sitter! He has had TWO women at his disposal for all this time and he doesn't want to lose that. So hold your ground and yank him off that fence!

Expose them at work and then send your Plan B letter. Don't let him sweet talk you out of getting the BRASS RING. Don't settle for the fake SHARED lead ring he is offering. What he is offering is NOTHING, hold out for it ALL.

Thanks!

I was in a good solid plan A for a month(actually it was longer since D day was May 15), letting him make his "decision". Nothing was happening.

When I confronted him last Thursday with his phone call to the OW while we were running (and he was out of sight), he said "I never told you I was going to stop seeing her".

I thought, this is enough. He's still doing the same thing he has been doing, and with my full knowledge. And the lies he continues to tell - this used to be the most honest person I knew!

You're right! He's a cake eating, fence sitter!

If he does call, should I answer?

What would I say to him?

What should I say to OW if I should call her?

Suggestions??????????????? K