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Plan A working, Now I'm Not Sure
#1166684 08/03/04 09:25 AM
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H has been going through classic withdrawal after EA for several weeks. Now he's coming out of it and starting to be fun. Actually thanking me for dinner, complimenting me, telling me how lucky he is to have me. But I can't hardly believe what he says, and keep looking for the trick, what's he covering up, all of that. I read the thread on trust yesterday, but I'm not sure I want to put out the effort. Maybe I'm just tired of it all. How does everybody else keep going? I don't know if I really want to reconcile now. Maybe I was just caught up in the emotion of finding out, or the "Terri always does what she's supposed to, what's best for the kids, she's so strong, etc." syndrome. Or am I just thinking too much?!!
Re: Plan A working, Now I'm Not Sure
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Shrek's Swamp
It is normal to feel emotionally exhausted during recovery.

Feeling exhausted does not mean something is wrong with you.

It means take a rest.

Trust in your husband to avoid another affair will be the last guy through the door of recovery! So don't sweat it that you don't trust him now. You shouldn't.

Start to trust your own abilities first. Until you feel strong in the sense that you make good sound judgements, you cannot trust yourself to trust HIM!

Rest.
Have some fun.
Journal.
Pray.
Reflect.
Smile.
Just be yourself.

Pep

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