Just called the OW.

She said she was with him now, I could hear a man's voice in the background. Don't know if it was his or not.

What should I do?

Nothing.

Thanks WAT

Before I got your reply, I called my WH and told him what I said, and what OW said.

I asked if he was with her....he said no. I told him I could hear a man's voice in the background.

He said maybe it was the TV. I said no, he was talking to her because he used her name.

I also asked him what he would think if she had another boyfriend. He said he would be very surprised.

I think they are both be dishonest with each other. Especially considering he didn't know she had herpes. And she didn't know he's been spending time with me.

He said he told his supervisor about the situation, and what his intentions were. His supervisor told him he could work out of the office.

He just can't understand why I called OW. I told him I just needed to do someting. Anything, since nothing seems to be happening.

He says that if he sends her a NC letter, that it would be disrespectful.

I asked him if he'd thought how he could do this in a way that was not disrespectful of me.

My head is all muddled.........I don't know what to think. I'm feeling very down right now.

<small>[ August 03, 2004, 09:20 PM: Message edited by: k72172 ]</small>

First try and calm down ( I know, very hard to do under the circumstances )

A NC letter is not disrespectful. In fact, it's very disrespecful to you if he DOES NOT send one.

Trust your gut, it's always right. Wait and see what happens, what he says when he gets home.

My prayers are with you...

Have you called his work and told his supervisor? Did you tell the OW that your H is spending weekends with you? Did you tell the OW that she gave your H herpes?

No, I didn't call his supervisor. He told me just a little bit ago that he had talked to his supervisor, and what his intentions were.

His supervisor said WH could work outside of the office.

I did tell the OW that WH has been spending weekends with me.

But I didn't say anythings about the herpes. When she said he was there with her, I just hung up.

Oh, what a horrible, horrible mess!!!!!!!!!!

k, be sure and expose him at work. I seriously doubt he told his supervisor anything at all. How did the conversation even come up? Why did he say he told the supervisor?

Thanks Mel...

This is the next morning. WH brought the subject up himself.

Good, K! Don't let it divert you from calling HR and informing them of the affair.