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I have not posted in awhile. My last month of pregnancy left me drained and I was in bed as soon as my 2 kids were.
My beautiful baby girl was born July 22. I was induced so my mom and sister took me to the hospital and stayed with me the entire time. My WH stayed home with the kids and came up later. He was there for the birth (pushing part only) per my choice. It went well.
He has been wearing me out lately wanting to have R talks all the time. These talks are not because of any feelings he has towards our 3rd child but, because the OW is really pushing him to file for divorce. My state will not process a D during a pregnancy and now his excuse for waiting is gone.
My sitch is different in that I am still in plan A, and that I have experienced birth twice before and knew what to expect. If you do decide to let him attend the birth there is no reason he needs to be there the entire time. Labor is work and you need supportive people there not a fogged out WH who hasn't had your best interest at heart for a long time.
If you plan to let him attend and then find it doesn't feel right you can change your mind. The nurses will take care of all that if you just make them aware of your sitch.
Baby is up if you want more details just ask and I will try to get back on.
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Is your H still with the OW? What plan would you advise for me? How have your hormones played a role in this? My WH tries to be sooo nice becuase of the guilt. It is hard for me to be nice because of the extreme hurt. I often think he doesn't deserve anything. I am going to see how I feel during the delivery and I may allow him to attend only the end like you.
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My Wh is still with the OW. She lives out of state but they talk several times a day and see each other every 2 to 4 weeks.
Overall he is nice to me and I to him. I am a conflict avoider and I think that helps me plan A. My mother and my best friend commented on how we still talk like good friends. I see him almost daily. He lost his job 8 weeks ago as a result of his affair so he has free time.
I have more to say but my SIL just showed up. Visitors are constant with a newborn, at least in my family. I'll write more later.
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