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Well my H FINALLY showed up. He did exactly what I thought he was going to do. Here's the story. I went to work on Fri. @ 1pm, my boss asked me if I had received a phone call, I asked from who & she told me that my H called my work @ 11am. She told him I was at home & that I didn't come in till 1. He NEVER called home. He came home AFTER I arrived at work. One of the boys called me & told me he was there & for me to call back. So, I called back & "asked" if dad was home. He got on the phone & I asked him where he'd been & why hadn't he called. No answer just nonsense. I asked him if I was going to see him befor he left, said he'd try to come by my work. I was upset, realized he would not come by, told him goodbye. My boss asked if I wanted to go home & I did. I actually called to let him know that I was coming home & he hung up on me. H also called my boss after I left & told her not to let me leave, that he'd be gone befor I got home. She told him I was already gone & that I was very upset & he needed to wait & talk to me. He hung up on her. I got home and all Hell broke lose! I asked all the same questions again, he said "don't worry about it", I asked him to show me his CDL or his log book, they do not exist. He was not happy about being asked those questions, told me it was none of my business. I got angry,fast. I took my hand a knocked his helmet off of the motorcycle handlebars. He then raised his fist as if he were going to hit me & my boys came out the door! My oldest, R, told him not to ever raise his hand @ his mom again. My H told him to stay out of "our" business that it didn't involve him. R said that anytime someone raised their hand to strike his mom that it involved him & that there was nothing he could do to stop him from protecting his mother. Lots of yelling, lots of obscenities, some pushing, and total chaos continued until the CHECK arrived. He was yelling at the mail carrier to hold his mail, SHE had already seen him push me in the street, long story short, she handed ME the check & drove off. I got the $ H is supposed to call me on the 10th, my birthday. Said if I want him to come home I have to make things change. Well, he told me that he didn't love me anymore, that he wanted a divorce, and he told me another lie about where he's staying. He lies about everything. Why am I still in love with someone who treats me so bad? I don't know what to do, don't know if I want him to come home right now. He said that he would be back the morning of the 13th. I didn't even tell him that the kids have planned a big B-day party, I'll have out of town guests here on the 13th, my baby brother will be here. I don't think my H will be at all happy about that. My out of town guests & my brother will not put up with him treating me badly. I want him back, but not like he is. Also he said he'd wire me some $ to get the boys school supplies. Today was their first day, not even a notebook, let alone the shoes I know they need. I can't write anymore. Lana

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Lana - That wasn't much fun. I would see an attorney to get some financial support from WH. I would not let him move back in the way he is now.

What MB plan are you in?

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oh lana, im so sorry this has happened to you. just seen this post, i havent been on this site for a while. well, its time for you to show some strength. you have to go on with your life. i know its hard, so damn hard, but you are a wonderful woman with some great boys. frankly, no offense intended please believe me, your h is a coward. what goes thru some ws minds, ill never understand. do what this site recommends. you work on you. see a lawyer about getting financial support from your h.his actions need to have consequences. the next time he shows up or calls, you tell him YOU are going on with your life one way or another whether thats true or not. you act upbeat, instead of depressed or accusing. if nothing else, your actions will give him pause, hopefully start him to thinking about what he's doing. i hope you will keep posting lana. i really feel for your situation.


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