I am so pissed!!!!! She keeps calling my H after she told him she would "let him go becasue she loves him". I want to call her so bad and tell her to stay out of our lives. I am so pissed right now!!!!!!!!!!! Somebody please give me some advice!!!!!!!

I'm right there with you.

OW said the same to my WH. There hasn't been enough time to find out if she will contact him or not.

I called OW last night. She said "he's right here with me". I didn't believe her, hung up. Then called WH. He lied and said he was at his apartment. Then he went and met her and broke up with her.

Tonight, he told me he was there. He was working up to breaking up with her.

Talking about all this makes me sick!

He should be the one to tell the OW to stop calling him.

IMHO... don't call her. It will do you no good.
WH has to end it. He started it. K

TreeReich

I understand you completely!!!

OW tried to contact my husband just shortly before Xmas.
(this was almost 3 years after NO CONTACT!!!) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

OW didn't know that it is now "MY" cellphone. She was shocked when I answered and she hung up.

My husband did the job!!!He phoned and he yelled into her voice mail:
STAY OUT OF OUR LIFE AND LEAVE US ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!(he was furious) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

So what is your husband doing about this????


Or how about giving us OW number, I'm sure alot of us would take care of that!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

hugs
bb

Don't call!

I did the 'calling the OW' thing before I found MB. And the OW even told me over the phone that if WH asked her to stay away, she would. (Yeah, right...)

It does no good. What OW is going to listen to the BS? If they hear us freaking out, they just feel that much more powerful.

Don't give her the satisfaction, no matter how much you want to. Be the bigger person.

A couple weeks ago I was parked outside WH's auto shop and he was working on my car door. Her comes OW pulling up a few carlengths behind me. She saw me as she got out, even though she tried to look away. She went directly in to the shop to wait on WH. I had fleeting thoughts about going in and cornering and having serious words with her. It would have been very easy.

But I didn't. I decided to be the more mature person and maintain my dignity. And I'm glad now that I didn't make a scene. Not only did I not lower myself, but WH got to witness my maturity, not my loss of control.

If you call the OW, she'll go blabbing to your WH's probably, and then you'll look the fool. Remember, most WH's are just looking for reasons to be justify their A, and the BS causing problems is a good one (even if in my mind it is JUSTIFIED!).

My two cents.

LL

I agree with Lordslady.

Don't sttop to her level. Maintain your dignity.
Can you possibly change your phone number or better still can you block her number? I live in Australia, so I am not sure what you can do on your phones over ther. A silent nuber (unlisted) would be the way I would go here.
C&S

I've decided that I am not going to call OW. I really would love to tear into her but you're right...I need to show H that I am a better person. He actually thinks I will call her and cuss her out and scream and yell so by not doing that maybe that will show him how mature I am.
We talked on the phone last night for almost 2 hours. He says he only talks to her when she calls becasue she's going through a hrad time too. What about me??? He says he has no feeling for me or her right now. How on earth can he say that to me. We've been married for 14 yrs. GOD!!!! He just wants to be away from me right now. I am trying to be strong. I will try to be happy and act like life is going great when he is around. It's going to be so hard. I'm so frustrated!!! He keeps saying things to me like "I'm neutral to yo and OW right now" All I hear is FOG talk. I just worry that in a few months he will decide that he does want a divorce.