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Well, I don't believe my W and the OM have stopped anything, so I went by her work around lunchtime, and sure enough saw her leaving with a guy. I let her know I saw her, and asked who it was and she claimed it was somebody else, and not the OM. I don't believe it, and think she said that so I won't call OMW again. I can't trust her, and find myself wanting to call and ask they guy she claimed it was, if he went to lunch with her. I don't know if I should or not though. I had alot of trouble sleeping, and made myself sick laying in the bed thinking about if it was the OM or not.
Should I call theu guy and see if she was telling the truth? and what about revealing stuff where she works? I wouldnt know how to go about doing it, and am kinda afraid, that that might ruin any chances of her coming back to me ever.
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why is she going out to lunch with ANY guy????
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You have reason to feel worried whether it was the OM or not. Just the fact that she went out for lunch with a guy (no matter who it was) is enough reason to feel upset... A WS needs to respect the boundaries in a M and one if it is NOT having dates/lunches with other guys or having opposite-sex friendships with guys who is not a friend of the M and a friend of you as well… These boundaries needs to be respected by your W especially because she is a (F?)WS. You need to have a serious talk with your W. I'm sorry you have to go through this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> Good luck and blessings, Suzet <small>[ August 05, 2004, 09:49 AM: Message edited by: Suzet* ]</small>
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Call OMW and tell her that you saw your W leaving with a man (insert description) and ask if it sounds like her husband.
Next time follow them.
God Bless
Doug
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I actually did follow them, and they went through a drive thru then I followed them, and I think she spotted me, because she turned out really quick like she was trying to get away. I couldn't make it through the traffic signal in time.
Well she is not staying at home now, and I have been trying to not call her, but should I call her and let her know how I feel about that, or is that gonna push her even further away than she already is?
<small>[ August 05, 2004, 10:05 AM: Message edited by: sewsklov ]</small>
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I probably will call OMW again but I would like to have something definite to share again, that's why I want to call this man my W says she was with, because if it wasnt him, then I have no doubt that it was the OM
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S,
I am sure your wife probably knows how you feel but I would remind her (nicely) that it makes you uncomfortable that she lunches with men.
It might come across as controlling to her but at this point anything that contradicts what she wants to do will be, in her eyes, controlling.
INVHO, this isn't really an issue that youneed to compromise on unless the fella she went to lunch with was a homosexual, deaf, mute eunuch (not that there's anything wrong with that).
God Bless
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I probably will call OMW again but I would like to have something definite to share again, that's why I want to call this man my W says she was with, because if it wasnt him, then I have no doubt that it was the OM
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