WW has been staying at her parents house since I told her I wanted her to leave in May 04. I haven't spoken to her since then, being very dark.

Three weeks ago I mailed a note to WW telling her that I would not pay her car(2) insurance anymore begining in August. WW called son last night and asked if she could talk to me about the car insurance. I told my son, no. WW tells son that she is going to "take it to the next level". By this I believe she means D? Right after the phone call ended, her father calls son and asked to talk to me. I told son/FIL no.

Should I talk with WW? I just feel like keeping the pressure on WW. I have been increasing the pressure since PB began.

Amused

I'm sorry if I am misunderstanding your attitude here, but this isn't a game we are playing. I found it hard to believe that someone would join a group like this calling themselves "Amused". There isn't much amusing about the breakdown of a family and marriage.
By the way, how old is your son? Please don't use him or put him in the middle of your marital problems.

I may get flamed for this but that is what I am thinking.

Tell us about what you accomplished in Plan A.

Or did you skip this and just kick her out?

The rule of thumb that when you feel like a doormat you are doing the plan A correct did apply to my case. Meeting EN's, improving one's self which in-turn the WW benefited from. I was just unable to continue Plan A without LBing, I knew it was just time to move to Plan B and take care of my sons and myself.

Dear Rpositive,

Do you still love your wife? Do you WANT her to come back to you?
What did she do or didn't do (after D-Day) that made you go to plan B?

Be careful jumping to Plan B...I don't know if its always good. I talked to my W tonight and I think hitting her with a PLAN B attitude might have caused her to "Hurt" herself. I'm tired of the BS the same as anyone and I've been in a Plan Aesque strategy for a year. If you kept LBing and I mean significant LB'S were you really in Plan A.

I'm just trying to help friend, believe me, I'm tired of this whole A business too. You know your situation better than I could ever, just my 2cents based on my scenario.

Take Care

brownhair,

thanks!
yes, i still love my wife. do i want her to come back to me...i am not so sure right now. i fell better in plan B than in plan A. the rollercoaster was taking it's toll on me, in PA i was begining to lose my love for her. her repeated contact w/ om was getting to be to much. in jan 04: a friend told me he had seen ww & om together at the beach and she admitted to having a separate bank acct. with the mailing address of the OM house. WW has been receiving money/taking money from me and him to meet her EM. now in plan B i telll her i am not going to pay car insurance and it hits a nerve with her. i want her to experience life w/o me. i am NOW willing to let the om try and meet ALL of WW EM's. from her reaction or inaction so far i would say ether om can not meet them and/or ww is not willing to D me and let the om meet her needs.

FamilyMatters,

thanks!
my 20 yr old son came to me in may of this year and wanted to talk. i/we have kept our sons removed from all of this A business as best we could. son tells me that i know what mom is doing and i don't think it is right. she is not being mother to us and she is not being a wife to you. those were very powerfull words to hear your son.

both of my BIL's have talked to me also. they do not agree with what their sister is doing ether. they think i have done the right think by moving to paln B.

my bottom line is if she is not happy as she said she so, their is no one person that can make you happy, you have to make that yourself. i don't believe the om can do it or i can do it. she needs to do it herself. i have no control over WW. i only have control of myself and my support of my sons. i reaaly think and have told her that she is in a mid-life crisis and sould talk with a somone for help.

r