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I grew up in Sconnie.
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Figure out what her big ENs are and start trying to meet them. If you want to repair your M, you should do this. But you sound like you're starting to not like her very much. Is it that, or is the day-to-day living situation just awkward? If that's the only problem, focusing on meeting her needs rather than fixing her will change the environment. Change yourself, and it might make her want to change herself.
But the stripper part, hanging around with leering fools and people without boundaries, that worries me.
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I love her very much. I am starting to wonder why tho. The day to day does make it awkward. All that she has done tho, I feel like she really needs to try, and Im getting fed up with her lack trying. I feel like she wont get it until she has to be without me for awhile. Im scared that being apart, will make us grow farther apart. But when it gets to that point, I might not want her anymore. I feel like I have given her too many chances. And she feels like part of the reason she has done all this, is because I havent been what she wants. Wtf, she has no clue what she wants.
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I really dont understand how she is ok with losing 1 of the 2 people that really care about her more than anything. I think that is a huge reason why she doesnt want me to go.
Its weird. I feel like she is acting towards me like her mother has to her. She has never really had to be without me. I think its time for a wake up call.
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Well then, it sounds like you know what you need to do. But do it according to the manual. Make all your arrangements, write the letter, get it OKed here, and do it.
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Thank you for the help Gray. I feel real strong about leaving, but I know she is struggling with if she wants to be with me or not. I think it kind of gives me a false hope tho. She hasnt really ever shown me anything. All talk. I dont want to be the doormat anymore.
<small>[ August 05, 2004, 09:55 PM: Message edited by: daddypop ]</small>
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