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I really blew Plan A. I wrote H a letter and basically told him off. It was what I was feeling and couldn't hold it in any longer. What do i do now. Can Plan B still be successful?
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Cyn,
I blew Plan A twice, the same way you just did.
I thought I couldn't go back but I did.
I didn't do it in a letter, I did it in person.
Told him exactly how I felt, didn't want to deal with it anymore, he could have her, and live happily ever after, all I want is a civil divorce.
Trust me, I blew it BIG time. But I got right back on the wagon.
Plan B can still be successful, but don't dismiss Plan A yet.
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Cyn1018:
<strong> I really blew Plan A. I wrote H a letter and basically told him off. It was what I was feeling and couldn't hold it in any longer. What do i do now. Can Plan B still be successful? </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Define what Plan B success means to you....
Plan B is to protect YOU .... and if you stick to Plan B it is often successful at keeping you away from borrowed chaos.
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Hi Cyn,
I am so sorry. I do not know what to say. Maybe you could send another letter stating that you apologize if you said hurtful things to him. Maybe tell him you feel some of what you said. That you thought he was your friend and maybe felt comfortable enough to blow off some steam. That you are still hoping that he will come back to you one day if his relationship with other woman ever ends. I wish you luck. I am working on writing a Plan B letter. Part of me wants to leave him and part of me wants to stay so I know how you feel. I am so in love with my husband that I cannot immagine life without him. My prayers are with you.
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I LB'd a ton of times during Plan A. I couldn't go more than a week without an outburst, but I would post on MB and get back on the Plan A horse. Talk about the letter. These are your feelings, they are valid. Apologize for any LBs.
If you said you wanted a D and now regret what you said, tell him that.
You can recover and continue with a terrific Plan A.
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