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Well I am 36 years old and married to my wife for 14 years. we started going out young. I did something stupid and asked here of any boyfriends before me .The answer, there was one then I demanded she tell me what happened during the realtionship she told me and that was that. But now a month later it hurts and it feels like she cheated on me.
Why am I feeling this way and is it stupid to feel this way.
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Your feelings are not stupid, but you need to be careful how you react. It looks like she loves you and wanted to please you, so she told you.
Now you can do things that can destroy your marriage, and destroy her love for you, or you can do things that will help your marriage grow stronger.
I suggest you get the books "His needs, Her needs" and also "Love Busters, Habits that destroy romantic love." from this web site, and find out how to make your marriage stronger. I think it would help you to get through this and be happier in the long run.
How is she reacting to your reaction? Is she afraid?
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The answer, there was one then I demanded she tell me what happened during the realtionship
littleman,
In my humble opinion...using the word "demand" was the first mistake. I would suggest that you remove that word from your conversations with her.
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ok Mike, let's be rational here. You say you "feel" like she cheated on you. Well, feelings are not TRUTH. The TRUTH is that she didn't cheat on you, she didn't KNOW YOU. So you can't rationally be jealous about something that happened before she ever knew you.
She has not done anything wrong, and to bring this up years after you are married is nothing but destructive. Unless you are trying to destroy your marriage for no good reason?
Why can't you just be happy with what you have instead of manufacturing all this trouble?
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