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<small>[ August 10, 2004, 11:19 AM: Message edited by: Trying2Overcome ]</small>

I can only give you a great big hug. I dont know what else to say. You have been through a lot. Only time will erase all the pain. Just hang in there.

Please forgive yourself. I feel bad for your pain. Please continue counseling and love yourself. Your pain seems so strong. Be true to yourself. Your infidelity was wrong but it sounds like your husband has a lot of problems. I am so sorry.

If your H wants you, he will make an effort to fulfill your sexual needs. But he may not be in a good frame of mind for that yet.

If he's a homosexual, then it makes no difference.

I don't quite get the time frame. What a year! You met and disliked OM, then fell in love with him, then your A fell into a pattern of abuse, then you slowly managed to get away from him, now a legal process against him is active...

Talk about you and your H's dedication to fixing your M. You have some big "if"s about it, and so does he, probably. But there is much to resolve.

GC

<small>[ August 08, 2004, 01:47 AM: Message edited by: graycloud ]</small>

By the way, receiving oral sex from a man is not something a heterosexual man would agree to. I know there are those with kinks and different boundaries, but I would say that's definitely over the line for most men. Kissing another man also.

Judging from your line of work, I assume you are probably considered by most to be a very attractive woman. Yet you haven't mentioned this at all. Why would a beautiful woman (or any woman for that matter) have to beg her own H for sex?

I think your H is gay. You are attractive. Both of you are healthy. He is not interested in sex with you, but will kiss a man. Is there more you can tell? The stereotypical things - modeling and interior decorating - lets put those things aside for now. What else can you remember about his sexual behavior? His past?

I hope you're safe from OM. He sounds very dangerous.

GC

T2O -

I have no tomatoes to throw. Hang in there. I'm glad you got the police involved! Stay safe. Keep going to counseling. Would your husband (H) go with you to marriage counseling (MC)? Have you been tested for std's?

Rose55

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<small>[ August 10, 2004, 11:21 AM: Message edited by: Trying2Overcome ]</small>

All I can say is I wish you the best of luck. I'm going through a pretty rough time myself along with so many otheres here. Thank goodness for this site!!!!! Hang in there!