Now it can be told. WH & OW had a lovely wedding last week. The only hitch: he's still married.

Hundreds of people attended the reception for this large-scale event. I understand there was even a cake. One thing missing (I hope): a wedding license!

A number of friends attended -- my friend who sang at our wedding sang at this one, too. I guess it doesn't matter where you sing, as long as champagne is poured. It was suggested that I let bygones be bygones and attend, too. I could have: I received a personal email from WH inviting me to this event. I think that rather took the biscuit: a letter from my husband, inviting me to attend a fraudulent (possibly felonious?) service in which he promises his love to a strange woman.

Don't know how those wedding bells rang on the occasion, but a few neutral observers told me it was "bizarre." They did not specify. I did not pick for details. My lawyer says they can do what they want as long as they don't have a license. They can offer sacrifices to the snake god.

People are acting weird around me.

The unfortunate thing was my teenage stepkids were called to this event, like prisoners in a Roman triumph. They, too, reported the event was weird, with a false hilarity, to their mom. They were seated by themselves at a table, to make merry as best they could.

<small>[ August 08, 2004, 12:38 PM: Message edited by: A.M.Martin ]</small>

Oh my, a fake wedding reception? Don't that take the cake?!?!?! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Well my dear weird will get more weird.... I am sure you are now prepared for anything.

My question is a financial one. Do you now have access to her source of income to show the children s/b getting more child support and you more alimony?

If so, go for it.

<small>[ August 08, 2004, 12:49 PM: Message edited by: orchid2 ]</small>

Does her income count? The kids stuff will be handled by their mother, who is much smarter about all this than I am.

Go for it, AM, all the traffic will bear. If they've joined themselves, I think it's perfectly reasonable that you do WHATEVER you can to obtain the resources that have been added, unwillingly or not, to your marital situation.

What an unbelievable thing.

Well that's one of the consquences of marrying another time. That additional income counts in CA. Least that is what my lawyer told me. But they'd have to be 'married' 1st.

Make sure they don't pay you with monopoly $$, ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I post my story as a way of showing all the betrayed spouses: at least yours isn't as bad as this!

ahhhhhhhh

the bonds of "unholy" matrimony

.... as the stomach turns.....

such low class

such hypocracy

such celebration of sin and selfishness

as Mr.T says ... "I pity the poor fool"

Pep

The snake god is probably the only creature that would accept the ceremony.

I'm so sorry, AM, this has to be high in the top 5 for the craziest thing I've read on these boards.

So, those were marital assest he spent on the "party" (since legally it was nothing more).

Do you have a newspaper in your town? It seems like even fake bigamy would be newsworthy.

On your behalf, I know I'd like all who were there to know they merely saw a performance not a sacrament.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{AM}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Awwww, Lor! I'm disappointed. What would it take to top the list? "Top 5" ain't good enough. We may beat that yet!

I post my story as a way of showing all the betrayed spouses: at least yours isn't as bad as this!

Whoa!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> I've had a very strange week and my WH has done some things that defy imagination, but you have me beat.

LL

Oh I dunno, Lordslady. I think your WH's porno-pix are in a category of their own. Both are worthy additions to the Hall of Shame!

AM -

You mean they FAKED a wedding? I don't get it. You mean people actually attended, although he is already married to you? I absolutely can not believe it. WHO WOULD GO???? How could they even show their own faces there?

I am totally and completely speachless! In fact if I didn't feel so crappy myself today I would be laughing my fool head off.

I'm sorry I really don't get the point of the celebration, and that people would actually attend, and that children were forced to be part of the sham just blows my everlovin mind!

Are they going to have a "fake" baby too, and then a "fake" divorce.

I am all for wedding celebrations for people who are not allowed to have a legal ceremony, such as people in the gay community. But this, this -

Like Pep said, this is such complete and utter hyocrasy it is mind blowing.

Weaver! Who would go? I was told about 300 people attended the fake reception! (Admittedly, relatively few probably knew it was fake.) OW is a bit long-in-the-tooth for a baby, fake or otherwise.

A.M.,

Given that he invited you, I would have attended and introduced myself to everyone in sight as WH's current wife....Also, when the officiant (snake god or otherwise) got to the speak now or forever hold your peace part, I would have stood up and said how can he get married to her when he's still married to me!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL!!!

Brit's Brat/BS-43
XH-45
DS-almost 3
Status: D-Day 5/02, Divorce final after 2 years of trying to recover marriage 5/04.

AM,
My X married OW 3 months before our divorce was final. I guess he had told OW that the divorce was final. She called my attorney, who had to break the news that the divorce wouldn't be final for a while. THey went ahead with the ceremony, I'm not sure what they did about the license. I did find online that they had applied for one...
Also, the whole thing was a huge secret. He never told our 3 kids, his parents, or me. I found out from a former co-worker of his who wasn't supposed to tell me. I then called his parents. X never invited anyone on his side to the wedding. It was all OW's side of the family, and her friends that attended.
I didn't think I'd have to face that until after the divorce, but, it made me start my healing, which is still ongoing.....
Very, very strange....

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by orchid2:
<strong> Well that's one of the consquences of marrying another time. That additional income counts in CA. Least that is what my lawyer told me. But they'd have to be 'married' 1st.

Make sure they don't pay you with monopoly $$, ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Correction to ALL ... They don't have to be M ... in CA they honor "cohabitat" !. I will give you all update on my flight on this one. Talk to your lawyer, with that wedding photos and invitation, you could get give it a shot.

I have learned that in CA, I could use "cohabitant". There are prior cases that view "cohabitant" is good enough to establish ground to include his/her income. The trick is proving that he is cohabitat with her. This will give you access to subpoena her financial record.

Having said that, if you don't need $ and want to move on ... let it go. If you want someone out from your life the first step is to make sure you are out from their life. IMHVO -rh-

PUKE!

AM,

At least YOU know that you don't have bats in the belfry like a certain WH and a pretentious homewrecker.Geeze. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

You should write a script and send it to Fox for a made-for-TV movie(maybe Monday night?) LOL.I hope you are ok despite the tawdry shenanigans.

O

A.M. - where I come from, the couple needs to present a marriage license issued by the local jurisdiction to the "officiator", i.e., the guy in the robe in a religious setting, in order for the ceremony to be "official."

Do you know what happened here?

What was expressly "weird" as reported by the individuals you mentioned?

Are you considering making an allegation to the local jurisdiction of bigamy?

If not, why not? Seems you have a solid case.

WAT

When will the license be registered? Have your lawyer get a copy. In CA the one who married you has to sign it. Hm..... I smell a rat!!!

BTW, does the office of immigration know about this fiasco?

As a foreigner with independent income from native country, OW's income would be hard to prove. There won't be any IRS statements. Nice idea, though.