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It's just so weird. We've been living like strangers in our house for 2 years. I found out about the A a month ago, confronted her 13 days ago. 9 days ago she says the affair is over and that she and OM are going to work on their marraiges for the kids. She tells me the A has been going on for a year and a half (right about the last time we had sex).
We've tried to spend more time together this week, and I feel like I am more in love with her and more attracted to her than ever. Maybe it's just because I could lose her, but it's driving me crazy.
Unfortunately, she says she doesn't think she can love me again. She can only say that she "thought" she loved me before. I've been treated like crap for 2 years, and somehow I feel more in love than ever before.
Brutal.
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Nemo your words are exactly my words too. It is amazing how similar these terrible experiences are considering they feel so unique to those of us destroyed by them.
I love my WW more now than ever before, I think. Perhaps it is because we need to in order to take the crap we must choke down in order to try to save our marriages?
Good luck and god Bless you.
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Yeah, It's like you don't realize how much you really love someone until they're gone.
I feel the same way. Maybe you take people for granted before you realize that they can be taken from you like this. Then you realize that you would never take them for granted again, you are overcome with these feelings of love and the need to share this love with them in a whole new way. Only problem is, now they don't want it.
I was fortunate enough to spend 2 wonderful months with my WS before she left again. She said I was smothering her with affection. I thought that's what she wanted. I guess we can't do anything right.
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Joe C thats an interesting point. I may be smothering my WW with affection too. Hard not to kep reinforcing that I love her though.....
I guess while most As are similar, women will each have different needs. I KNOW I had not shown enough affection to my W lately.
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Ditto with all
I too have been more attracted and fallen more in love with my wife since i found out about the affair.
I too am guilty of smothering her with too much affection. WW states that she is not used to it comming from me. She likes it, but at times makes her feel very uncomfortable. Tells me it is like going from 0 to 100mph and she can't handle it right now. So am backing off a bit but it is hard.
I agree with everyone else on this post. I guess the affair really let me see how much i took advantage of. Makes for a new appreciation for my WW and what i had.
Still taking day by day.
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