Well I made a agreement with my lawyer to let D stay with mom from sunday to sunday......It was so sad .me and D had a good weekend,had company over night all weekend.......I had to meet WW at 7-11 at 6:00 pm .D was praying that WW would not show.I had 17 yr old son as a witness...When WW pulled in on my side I remained calm and cool....WW walked around to passinger side of truck and opened door.WW had two people with her a man she works for and a 18 yr old neighbor.. well D asked mom all sad if it was ok if she could come down just during the day and MOM told D no lets go" .......D repeated it several times to WW...D started crying and said I don't want to go" and WW said I will talk to you When we get down there.......WW grabed D arm and started pulling her.... D then started kicking WW in the chest and tummy.She then grabbed D leg and pulled her out of truck.D was crying ..D asked WW if she could give daddy a hug and a kiss.....So D came up to my window and I gave her a kiss and said if you need me call me.........D got in car and had tears in her eyes.......D called me at 8:20pm and then at 9:10 pm and again at 10:00 pm and at 10:19 and said good night....I told D that I will pray for her and want D to pray for me.I told D that she will have to call me.I will not call her at all........I told D she could call me a million times day.....She laughted.....I cryed all the way home..I held back and stayed strong.......

I was told to do this this week if I want to be able to keep D after the hearing......I did have a long talk with D about OM and other guys touching her or bothering her to let me know if anything happens............I also told D if some thing happens just run up to hair dressers 4 doors up the street..and she will get ahold of me............D said WW told her trhat I can pick her up for church sunday....and also WW is going to go to church.................I hope WW feels like a [censored]......If she has any heart at all I know this had to hurt her..........

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Frank, I am just so sorry for your little daughter. Why did the lawyer not think your W could visit at your house? How heartbreaking for that little girl.

Why did you allow your lawyer to do this? Your WW is living with a felon for goodness sake! Couldn't you have simply told your lawyer that your WW's home was unfit for your daughter? I don't see how letting your daughter stay there will help her either morally or emotionally. Bad move to do this in my opinion.

I had no chose in the matter .....My lawyer told me that this judge is real strick about men holding custody......It is until sunday..I had a long talk with Daughter about the whole situation.Told her about men touching her wrong ......ect.I told her that I do not condone what mommy's doing and I told her that if anything happens to get on the phone to me or granny........My mothers good friend the hair dresser is 4 doors down and if anything happens go to her house........Then my mother had the same talk.......with D......My D called me last night 4 times........7:40 pm 9:00 ,9:30 and 10:00 pm........She called again at 11:07 am this morning....I told D that she needs to call me that I will not call her...... .before she left.........She has done that........I think that this is a dose of reality for WW......She needs responsibility........I know that D is giving her a fit.......D told me to be strong that she will be OK.She told me that WW is going to come to church sunday.....I will believe that when I see that........My D hates other man real bad and will not give him the time of day.........I told OM if he lays one hand on D or even hollors at her he is mine......He is a scared of me .He hides when ever I come around........One day 2 months ago he told me to slow down when I pulled up and I jump out of the truck and he almost sh** him self.......That was the first time I had done that because I am a better man then that.......he ain't worth it...............He is half my size and I will kill him........My WW knows that too..........I know that WW is toast right now but I know that she won't let anything happen to D.........They had a fight a couple of months ago and OM said something to D and WW jumped all over his ****..........In a way I think this is good for the both of them............Dose of D will do them good.............fanacey land is over .My D does not miss a trick and she will let me know............I was wonderingf how WW felt when D did not want to get out of truck and kicked her yesterday..........I know if I was a mother and my D acted like that that would kill me............They were always so close.......WW tried to put D against me when she first left but it backed fired..............got the book his needs,hers needs........

OK ... I am done "marriage building" right now... time for me to vent... no response required from anyone, I'm just gonna let loose for a minute!!!!!

What the hell is WRONG with your wife???

Is she stupid?

Very BAD judgemental bad Pepper ... I DON'T CARE!!!!!!!


This so-called mother is AWFUL and CRUEL to her very own daughter!!!!!!

She is hateful.

there... all done.... breathe... breathe.....breathe....

Next time... bring your cam-corder along to record the transfer.

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I brought a witness and also the lady in 7-11 saw everything......I even asked her what time it was when we pulled up .......I know her from shopping in there.......She saw it all....She said that she would be a witness........Don't worry this did hit my WW like a knife..........I did real good........My D called @ 5:14 pm and again at 9:35........she told me to be strong.she is such a sweet little girl and she knows who is right here.tommorrow morning I will be dropping off some clothes @ 7:30 am and D is going to get up to give me a kiss and a hug......Don't worry my D is a strong person.......And love her daddy dearly.......And WW knows this..........I have not called at all.......told D to call me.......She said " Daddy I understand"..........

FrankD - Reading your posts bring tears to my eyes, but these are good tears. You are such a wonderful father. I can only hope to be half as strong for my baby. The love you have for her just jumps off the page, she is truly bessed to have you.

Frank,

Can your son call his sister and let her know he will be checking up on her so she knows she has both of you for support?

L.

Thank you all..reading your thread brought tears to my eyes again.........I was stong when it happed but I cryied like a baby all the way home...I am crying now just thinking about it.......I thought everyone would howler at me for doing this but believe me it was for the better..............I wondered if this bothers WW at all......god is on my side and I prayed all day yesterday before I took D down there.......I started going to church after d-day
and I believe that this is what god wanted me to do.I even read pslams 55 to daughter right before we left........"Fear and trembling have taken hold of me"......" But I call out to God and the lord to save me"......." Evening , morning, and noon I groan and cry out and he hears my voice".......He hears my prays and makes my enemies suffer"........My D read that to me ..........I told her to be strong and God will watch over her and her mother......

[QUOTE]Originally posted by frankd:
I hope WW feels like a [censored]......

By Ladysing:
I hope your lawyer feels like a [censored], he is inhumane for subjecting your D to such an incident. Next time, get a video camera and then take it to your so called lawyer.

Frank, I don't want to make you feel any worse. What happened was unfair to you and your D and your W will have to live with that memory for the rest of her life. How horribly sad and selfish she is...

I will pray for you and especially your precious innocent D, she does not deserve this... <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

I know what you mean........I think my WW is in a deep fog

If she has any kind of heart .this had to effect her...................I know I cryed for 20 mins on the way home..........I got the first call last night and D said be strong.....what a champ.......Meagan said " you want to hear the good news mommy is going to go to church"..... try to look good............If she does I hope it will effect her............I pray.....Can you believe I still love this women....( not THIS women)

Frank -

I am so sorry and so proud that you are handling this as well as you are. I have tears running down my face reading this. You are such a good man and dad!

I am so glad that you have taught your little girl to pray, because it gives her a sense of control over a situation she has no control over. She can talk to God and know that he will watch over you both. Especially when she is afraid, or lonely for you. She will be okay and so will you.

I am so sorry and pray that this week goes by quickly for you. You stay within the law, no matter how hard it gets. When you are really angry and want to do something, you come here. Get yourself a punching bag and hang it up somewhere, make sure you have a healthy release for your anger.

You keep being the dad that you are, with such great open communication, and love with your little girl, and she will be fine. Trust in your love for each other, and in God. I know that this is what you are doing already, you are a very smart guy, you know that?

I wish some of us ladies here could get your wife for a weekend, not to beat the heck out of her, but to somehow get some sense back in her.

...forgive her she knows not what she does -

nothing worse than a mother who can't see past her own face.

Take care Frank,

Frank I am desolate at your story. I am a broken man because of my WW A but I just took my babies bowling this morning and hugged them and loved them. I truly couldn't do this without the full love and presence of my babies.

Dear God I pray you set a hedge of angels against the evil affecting Frank and his daughter - keep them together,loving and pure, unsoiled by this present darkness.

And Almighty Jesus I pray your divine hand in the progress of all the well intended broken hearted on this board Lord. Let good hearts win out soonest. Amen Lord, thy will be done.

Thank you all for your prayers.........I am real alone tonight.my 17 yr old S went to a concert with older brother and wont be home untill 12:00am.............I am at my brothers housce because my PC froze up and had to do a recovery...My luck.....I saw D this morning at 7:40 am had to drop off clothes for D ...I had to call when I pulled up and WW answered the phone after 12 rings....She said hello" and I said "I got D clothes down here" she went "SHHHHHHHHHeeeeeeeeeeesssss" and hung up.......D came down all happy and sleepy.......She said "I was up but fell back a sleep I was waiting for you " Daddy.I gave her a big kiss and a hug and said see ya sunday...WW said to D that I could take her to church at 9:00 and bring her back afterwards....Which earlier lawyer said she said no........I will take her back at 11:30 and pick her up for my week at 6:oo pm sunday....Can't wait.....I Told D as she was running up the steps real loud " Be good for mommy" she said I will........( so mommy could hear me).......She called back at 10:00 am and told me that she had band practice today at 1:45 pm........she sounded a little better today........I called there for the first time at 1:00pm to tell D that I was done my MRI I had .....OM answered the phone and I asked for D and he did not hang up I heard him call for her....WW lawyr must have told her not to let OM hang up on me....I will not call there any more this week........D called again at 5:30 pm and told me about her clairinet lessons.She said she liked it and told me all about it.......she said the time is really going by fast..she said 5 more days and she will be home.........She heard her mom tell her lawyer yesterday that D did not speak to her the first night...I wonder if she told her lawyer how she had to pull D from truck...........I dout it.........I did read the book his needs her needs .I was wondering what is the best book for my situation with WW liveing with OM..........I thank every one for your support...tHIS IS THE ONLY PLACE THAT UNDER STANDS HOW i FEEL.............My mom made me upset again she told me to get over WW she is never comming back and I should find someone elce..I cried after she told me that.......I will do what I have to do..........Plan A plan B who knowssssssss.........

Thank you all for your prayers.........I am real alone tonight.my 17 yr old S went to a concert with older brother and wont be home untill 12:00am.............I am at my brothers housce because my PC froze up and had to do a recovery...My luck.....I saw D this morning at 7:40 am had to drop off clothes for D ...I had to call when I pulled up and WW answered the phone after 12 rings....She said hello" and I said "I got D clothes down here" she went "SHHHHHHHHHeeeeeeeeeeesssss" and hung up.......D came down all happy and sleepy.......She said "I was up but fell back a sleep I was waiting for you " Daddy.I gave her a big kiss and a hug and said see ya sunday...WW said to D that I could take her to church at 9:00 and bring her back afterwards....Which earlier lawyer said she said no........I will take her back at 11:30 and pick her up for my week at 6:oo pm sunday....Can't wait.....I Told D as she was running up the steps real loud " Be good for mommy" she said I will........( so mommy could hear me).......She called back at 10:00 am and told me that she had band practice today at 1:45 pm........she sounded a little better today........I called there for the first time at 1:00pm to tell D that I was done my MRI I had .....OM answered the phone and I asked for D and he did not hang up I heard him call for her....WW lawyr must have told her not to let OM hang up on me....I will not call there any more this week........D called again at 5:30 pm and told me about her clairinet lessons.She said she liked it and told me all about it.......she said the time is really going by fast..she said 5 more days and she will be home.........She heard her mom tell her lawyer yesterday that D did not speak to her the first night...I wonder if she told her lawyer how she had to pull D from truck...........I dout it.........I did read the book his needs her needs .I was wondering what is the best book for my situation with WW liveing with OM..........I thank every one for your support...tHIS IS THE ONLY PLACE THAT UNDER STANDS HOW i FEEL.............My mom made me upset again she told me to get over WW she is never comming back and I should find someone elce..I cried after she told me that.......I will do what I have to do..........Plan A plan B who knowssssssss.........

She called at 9:00 pm tonight and I was on my way to pick up son.....I told D I just drove by OM house........She was happy I told D in 15 minutes I would be back again and I will leave on my inside light and wave at her if she looks out the window as I drie by.......As I drove by D was waving and she looked so cute.....She had just called me as I was coming up.I miss her so bad........But my wife needs this dose of reality.......

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Frank, your mom is way too quick to rule out your marriage. There are no guarantees but it is too soon to throw in the towel so don't listen to her, ok?

That is sweet that you drove by the house for Meagan. I got a big smile out of that. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

thank you again ml you are the best.........i can go to sleep now knowing thatyour here for me..........god bless you;