An update. My H has moved about for about 2 months now. Was staying with a friend for about One and half months and then suddenly got a place right after her husband kicked her out. He is saying it is only for a month and then he is leaving town, he says alone.
I have been by the place two times since he moved in and ow car is in the area. He says she is not staying there but they were just talking and having a drink. Whatever. It is too weird that she leaves comes backs to town no where to stay and he decided he could not stay with his friend anymore.
He says he is leaving in two-three weeks and that he is going alone. He told a friend of mine that he talks to her because he has no one else to talk to and that they all are telling him how dumb to be with this woman.
I heard horrible things about her over the weekend from his co-workers. That she has hit on other women and men many times, that the reason her husband kicked her out was because he had already given one chance with another affair, and a lot of things i would not even post. She is just horrible, and I do not understand why he wants to hang out with her and he knows I want to work things out.
He just says the same ol, we are better not together, I will just hurt you again, she is just a friend and we had a similiar history of abuse, and parent suicides. Who wants to be with someone who is just as screwed up.
I am sad that he chose to be with this type of woman over me. not that i am perfect, but he tells me that I have not done anything wrong and that I am a good wife. He says do not blame yourself that it is him.
We talk now only every 4-5 days. He says he wants to have dinner tomorrow and talk about things. I am sure he means legal things since he is planning to leave. he probably wants to start seperation paperwork.
I do not seeing him changing his mind and I am not sure if going away would help. I think he is so stubborn that if he realized he made a huge mistake and wanted to recover that he would not come back because he has already made such a mess of things.
I am not sure how to act tomorrow. He lies so much that it makes me sad and angry. I try to be nice about things, but then get upset.
