Ok - I'm still in a very weak Plan A - I feel that I am withdrawing from my WH...For those that don't know my "story" - I believe WH is a serial cheater - let's see 4 married women in a year...

Anyway - his birthday is in a couple of weeks, his daughters wedding the day after and 3 days later our 10 year anniversary..

Should I buy him a Bd gift??? This is the 1st year that I got nothing for my Bd except a card which meant NOTHING since he didn't mean one word of it..Typically, we spend alot $$$ on gifts for each other - I'll feel stupid buying a gift for someone that is F***** someone else and probably hates spending one minute with me. What do you buy someone that doesn't care about you or the repair of your M.. All they care about is buying calling cards to call thier OP's..Maybe that's what I should buy him...A 200 min. card...ahahahha - though, I don't want him to know that I know about the cards...

It breaks my heart to not buy him something - I'm sure his OP will buy him something "special"..yeah, like last year a CD..that I wouldn't notice...Hmm, maybe she'll pay for the room that day..hahha..Boy, I'm in a mood today..

I did plan on buying him a new wedding ring for our anniversary but that would be a really stupid move - right...He bought me one when we were in Aruba - I think just to show off in front of our friends.

What should I do????

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Originally posted by ITHURTS:


Should I buy him a Bd gift??? This is the 1st year that I got nothing for my Bd except a card which meant NOTHING since he didn't mean one word of it..

</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Buy him a lovely birthday card... one that says "To My Husband" .... sign your name "love, Me"

No gift.

Pep

I agree...I wouldn't buy him a gift. I would just get a simple card. NOTHING else.

My WH's birthday was about three weeks after he moved out. I sent him a short e-mail wishing him Happy Birthday and told him I hoped he had a nice day. He called me to thank me for wishing him well. It was a small gesture that was hard for him to get angry with and let him know I was thinking of him.

However, Fathers Day was the next weekend and that is where I think I scored some major points. I got him a simple Happy Father To Be Card and gave him a framed sonogram picture which I know he keeps by his bed. He thanked me for that, twice. It might not be my picture he looks at every night, but it is a piece of me so I don't see how he could help but think of me. So unless you can think of something that would really have some sort of emotional impact, without being too flashy, I would just stick to a simple card with a short note stating you will be thinking about him on this day and you hope he has a nice day.

Ok so I'll just get him a card - not overly mushy...

Our 10 year Anniversary is 5 days later - my thoughts would be to go ahead and give him a beautiful card - but inside I want to put a note

Dearest ### - These written words were so true for almost 9 of our 10 years together. Today, they are only being said to the man I thought I married, the man I wanted for eternity. THe man I wanted to share my life with - this man does not exist anymore - he is gone. The new man doesn't want to see or accept my love - that I'm sorry for...

Love

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I was going to put that in his BD card - but, I think it will mean more in our A card...