Oh, let me count the ways my WW hurts me:

Calls me a retard at our kids 3rd birthday party so many times my sister commented on it.

Smokes in the garage, near our kids and she is carrying the OM baby.

Physically re-treats when I even come close to touching her. Not that I try too, because I know it will make her mad.

Has comments about when I almost touch her. "did you cop a feel?"

Does not allow me to ask her questions about what she does when I am not around. Doesn't ask me to stop, just yells at me.

Yelled at me so loud with the kids in the car they told her not to be mad at me. All because I did not remember that the store we were going to was a Wal=Mart, not a K-mart. I am a bit forgetful, but that seemed like overkill to me.

When the kids took a nap today, she laid out in the sun (actually got burnt), then told me I had to come home early so she could get ready for work. Had to iron a shirt, and make sure she looked good. The OM works Mondays, so I bet that whole NC thing is a bunch of garbage. She was in such a good mood on the way to work, I can only guess it is cause she is gonna see the OM. It is just a guess, but I bet it is a good one.

Will not be in the same room with my sisters. This one is not all her fault, my sisters want to kill her right about now.

Gets mad at me when I 'want to talk'.

Now for the question:
If I fall out of love with her, do I just leave her? I mean my kids are starting to feel this. My 3 year old daughter was crying about 20 min ago, when I went up to her room, she had a 'boo-boo' She had bit her own arm so much it brought her to tears! No marks, but still...

I am not even sure if I like her anymore. Oh well. When she comes home, we will talk (I hope) then sleep (I hope).

I am gonna try to send up some pictures to the thread later too.

Take care all!! and thanks for the ears.

CTH,

Plan A is supposed to last until you start losing love for your WW. Since that is already happening, and your children are starting to feel the effects, kick her out and go into Plan B.

That way, she can see how life will be with OM.

I'm sure you can find someone to care for your children while you are at work, etc.

Sorry to hear this. Pregnancy does strange things to women. How was she with the other pregnancy?

Also the added element of the A isn't helping. Do you have options of putting her out and you have custody of the kids?

Document what she is doing. When you are ready file a request for separation along with custody of the children and home. It doesn't matter that she is pregnant or not. Her disrespectul actions are making her dangerous to you and the children. You don't know what she may be subjecting the children to when you are not at home. Don't mean to alarm you but I have an SIL doing similar to my BIL. Arrrgh..... not fair. SIL (who is having the A) filed neglect charges against her H. He just bought has a ring over 10k, a new BMW and already has provided her with a large home in a very nice neighborhood. She rewarded him by having an A. Now she is spending thousands of $$ on plastic surgery (she is less than 28) on various body parts, thousands on clothes, etc. She looks very fake at this point and totally disgusting.

SIL is my H's sister. Yet we all feel bad for BIL. Imagine that!

BIL now has to go to court ordered counseling along with his 3 children. The WS (SIL) gets to keep playing her stupid games.

I wish he could talk with some of the BS H's here. He thinks he is alone in this mess but he really isn't.

You aren't either. Think about your options.

take care,
L.

Canthishelp -

I want to focus on what your 3 yr old did. Kids do things like this when they are worried or scared. My sister starting biting herself when she was 3....my parents had just gotten a divorce and we wittnessed things that no child should ever have to witness. My parents behavior had a terrible effect on my sister. I only wish that my parents had realized that then instead of exposing us to this abuse our entire lives. The damage was done for my sis. What started when she was 3 still remains at the age of 30...draw your own conclusions there.

Your kids are suffering. You don't need any other acts to prove that fact. Kids want to feel safe. Their mothers actions are inflicting pain right now. Your 3 year old's actions can speak for themselves.

Do what's right for your children and protect the love you have for your WW.

Are you kidding?

Your 3yo girl is reaching out, begging you to step up to the plate and be a man. She wants you to be her saviour, role model, protector.

Your response is to whine that you're losing love for this psychopath.

You're just looking for validation and excuses for not pulling your children out of a very bad situation. Face reality and start thinking about your kids.