My H who has moved into an apartment and I know is still seeing OW has now some major decisions to make. He was asked to leave his job today rather than in two weeks after his resignation was turned in. They found out that he had the A with OW and this woman is a member of the resort where he worked.

We were actually supposed to talk tonight, I do not know about what. I have not seen him in over a week and have talked to him briefly a few times mainly about when we will meet to talk. He keeps putting me off. Well, he again put me off and said that he had a bad day and did not want to talk to me tonight in that mood. I know this means he is going to sulk and talk to OW since he got the boot today.

He still says he is leaving town and does not know what he is doing job wise or anything. He continues to say it is not her but that he is leaving on his own. I do not believe it. I think if and when he leaves she will too. SHe has been kicked out of her house by her H.

I want to work things out. I do not know what to say to show him that anymore. He knows I love him and will forgive him if he can work at this and stop contact with her. I just do not see how we can live in the same city anymore. I think the guilt and his embaressment would get to him.

He says now that we will talk to tomorrow. I do not know what he wants to talk about. I guess that he is leaving, and what we need to work out legally or I am not sure.

I just love him so much and want to be here for him, even though he has ruined a great job, a great marriage, great friendships and he chooses to spend time with the woman who helped cause all of this.

How can he do this?

Are you going to be okay financially without him? He is still in the fog, so I would let him crash and burn.

I am not sure if I will be ok. He says he will continue to send money for bills even if he leaves. He says he knows it is his mistake and he will never let me suffer that way, but any other way I guess is fine.

I really think things are falling down in front of him. He still continues to see her and talk to her even though she is 50% of the reason that he has no job, no marriage, no friends. Why can he not see that.

Everyone that tries to talk to him tells him that and I think that it makes him feel more guilty. There are a lot of people on my side. So many people at his work are friends of ours and are very shocked so they try to ask questions and of course, some are just nosy.

I do not know what else to do. I have tried to tell him that I want him to talk to me about all of this happening. But again he put me off tonight, I am 99% that he is with her. I guess misery loves company. I guess we will see what tomorrow holds.