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#1170665 08/10/04 07:08 PM
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My H sent a NC letter to the OW and she received it today. So she called me to tell me that I'm a nut case for making him seen the letter and that he needs to find another job and that she is going to file an order of protection against my H and since they work in the same factory he wouldn't be able to go to work. Can she do this? Does anyone have any thoughts?
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#1170666 08/10/04 07:29 PM
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Hi Luvybug

Has he actually hurt or threatened her? If not, she is full of hot air! He should be planning on changing jobs as part of the NC plan, so that is no big deal.

She's the one that sounds like a nut case!!!

#1170667 08/10/04 08:50 PM
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Hi Luvy,

I had to file an "Order of Protection" against OW as a pre-cursor to an Anti Harassment Order.

In order to do so, the legal requirement was that she [OW] had to have illustrated a consistent repeatative harassment or threatening behavior toward me even after being warned.

The Order of Protection was simply a temporary no contact order until we went to court and the Anti-Harassment order was decreed.

Hope this helps.

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#1170668 08/10/04 09:10 PM
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I agree with resilient. A Plan B letter is hardly a form of harrassment.She(OW) is just trying to get you upset and fearful.But,that's not to say that you should not watch your back.Remember the movie Fatal Attraction? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

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#1170669 08/11/04 01:11 AM
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I Was awarded a harrasment injuction againt my former OW who was also a co-worker at the time. What I did was break all contact with her and wait for enough evidence to come in to have a rock sold case for the injuction (e-mails, attempted phone calls etc..). When I filed, I had to do an afidavid which sited all of my evidence. Based on this information, the court commisioner/judge issued a 7 day temporary injuntion and had her served with it. (By this time OW had quit her job so that was no longer and issue.) I was granted a court hearing on the injunction and the OW did not show up. Instead she sent the court a letter pleading her case. The letter was basically ignored because she did not state it's contents under oath and the injuction was granted for two years, Had the OW showed up, the hearing would have been treated just like a trial, complete with attorney's and judges, and witnesses, etc.. In other words, it is not that easy to get a court ordered injunction without adaquate evidence. She can try, but if he shows up to defend himself, it would most likely be denied, unless she can PROVE that he attempted to hurt or harrass her in some way.

As far as work goes, Had my OW chosen to remain employed at my company, the injuction most likely would have included some language that would have adressed that curcumstance.


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