I posted in the wrong group yesterday( Sorry)
H brought up D not me but things have backed off of that I did see ATTY to get may rights so has he. We spoke the other night and he want to write down quistions for me. The affair is way over and has been we moved to another state but I was talking to OM on phone ! thats how H found out. My big things is WHY he dont want to try or maybe Im pushing things to fast but how long do you wait ? If H dont want to try should I file , We have to go back to court for the order of protection , because i wont sign the agreed order and Temporary parenting plan . We have two kids he has them , and no he dont have to give me money and I have been trying to get a job it's very hard we live in a small town. We still see each other and have sex so I dont know what he wants . I tell him if he dont want to work on this then we must file. I dont want to push but I need to stat my life some how.
I'm I beening to pushy? It's been 3 months and he wont let me come home and i cant be in the house if he dont say it's ok THATS HIS RULE NOT THE COURT. Any help is great. Sorry I keep jumping around with words so lost dont know what to do .

“””The affair is way over and has been we moved to another state but I was talking to OM on phone !”””

Yeah the physical aspect of the affair may have ended but obviously the emotional has or had not if you still needed to talk with him. Which your husband see’s as continued betrayal and how can he want to work on reconciliation while you still have contact with your former lover.

Plus three months is not a lot of time when compared to a decision that affects the rest of your life. I encourage you to read up on the MB principles and start implementing them into your life.

ihurt2,
I'm sure you do hurt too, but being the cause of the hurt makes the sympathy more difficult to come by.

Why were you talking to OM?

Why would he want to try to repair your marriage if you were talking on the phone with OM?

Why does he need an Order of Protection? Have you assulted him?

It hasn't been 3 months because your affair with this man continues. Can't you see that?

You are continuing to hurt this man. Stop it. Don't have any other contact with OM if you want to repair your marriage. If you can't stop contacting him, then move on. It's cruel what you're doing to your family!

I agree with jph! You have the CHOICE to stop contacting the OM. You are killing your H and the chance of recovery! Your H has been betrayed and hurt so deeply. YOu are still betraying him. STOP>.....save your marrrigae!

no i dont think i wrote that right , I was talking to him on phone, ( thats how H found out) Im not talking to him any more . and havent and dont want too. I think my H thinks I'm but I not the only thing I want to do is fight for my family . I have had no contact at al from OM . I love my husband so much and hurt him so bad I just want to make him belive me that.