Oh my gosh -

you are me, only 25 years younger and minus the baby. The baby didn't come along for me until I was 34 and was with the FIFTH loser. Then I spent six years alone,(by choice as I am also attractive and guys like me, expecially losers), and fell in love with loser number 6.

Don't make the same mistakes I did. The problem is you, not the guy. You are attracting losers, and you are attracted to losers, as is always the case with girls with incredibly low self esteem.

I wish I had the answers for you,... I do know that unless you make the changes in yourself nothing will change for you. Your decision making skills will always be bad. As Melody told me, you don't know what is "appropriate".

Figure it out while you are still 20, it is pretty embarassing to still be making the same mistakes like I am at 45...and the pain only gets worse each time.

xax:

But you do deserve some compassion. I think you're getting it here whether you realize it or not.

People are trying 2 save you from a lifetime of possible, heck probable, misery.

Get yourself on a firm emotional footing before having another intimate relationship.

-ol' 2long

"yes my family has told me to leave him"

I think they have your best interests at heart. Why not listen to them? They love you and want the best for you.

"And a couple people have told me to leave him also, and some have told me to help him, to stick with him and yadda yadda. "

This is what I meant when I said not good at "independent decisions" ... you're trying to go by consensus or something.

"But if it were so easy to leave your significant cheating other what the hell is everyone else doing on this board then"

I never said it was "easy". I said it is in your best interest. And you family agrees.

I have been married 23 years... longer than you've been alive.

My marriage problems were not pre-marital. We had a track record of YEARS of a good marriage before we hit a big problem. Thus we had something to save.

You do not have a history of any decent relationship with this man-child to date. So, there is nothing to save, it was never there to begin with.

Pep