Plan A has gotten so much easier this week. I think this is the first time I actually followed it like I am suppose to. There has been no LB's and I have been working on meeting some of the top emotional needs of my husband.

He has been kind of undecided whether he wants to continue MC. Last night I told him I had to know so I could let her know if we were coming or not. He at first said fine I will go for you. I said don't just go for me. Then he said fine I will go. So I guess tomorrow we are going.

The only thing bothering me right now is that fact that I know he is still calling her on his new cell. He won't pick up when I call. Says his phone has signal problems. But I think he just wants to save his free minutes to contact her. Also this weekend I wanted to drive to the beach and spend the day but he decided that he wants to go to North Carolina which is about 6 hours from here to hang out with his friend and help him build a computer. I told him I was hoping we could spend some time together he said well I don't want to. That hurt. But I didn't say LB.

With following plan A I feel so much more at peace. I don't put myself in his chaos. I don't stress myself out over him. Yes it still bothers me knowing they are calling each other but right now I have so much more to worry about. Like ME <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> my sons and this new baby.

Good ((( sml )))
I hope to be more content soon too.

SML,

So howz about turning on his cell and leaving it on for a while? Use up his free minutes. Is he a tightwad? Will the A stop if he has to spend $$ calling the OW? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
L.

I'm glad to hear it. I didn't realize you are pg. You're an angel!

My FWS didn't want to continue MC, either. Probably cuz MC said A had to end. I'm glad your FWS has at least agreed to go.

I can't remember if you said you are going to IC. This will be a very hard time for you. It's best to get as much support as possible.

It doesn't sound like the A has ended, but Plan A is also about *you*. It's time to look at what's been going in your life. What were you like before the A? What do you want to change?

We can't control the other person. We just need to make the M something they want to return to. Your WS loves you. He just can't just remember right now. Remind him of the happy, fun person you were when you met.

You are on the right track, SML. Enough of their chaos. You have more important things to take care of. ((hugs))

Orchid,
If that was the case I would run those bad boys out if I knew that would prevent him from calling her. But I know that he calls her from his job and also use to buy phone cards... So if he really wants to call her he would find a way. He is not a tightwad but if he runs over his minutes and he hasn't been talking to me and pays the bill he knows I would see he was talking to someone.

I use to be so miserable. Everynight he would come home I would ask him if he still wanted to leave. When he would stop calling her and such. I never heard what I wanted to hear so that ended up in Lbing. And me crying and feeling so sad. Plus I realized that pushed him out the door little by little. He is really bothered I am hurting but to me doesn't seem to have the strength or willpower or something to finally break the phone contact. I truly believe though in time he will if I keep working on myself and making our home life more attractive. No more crying, pleading, begging, questioning, and Lbing from me. I just want him to know he is loved, wanted, and forgiven for his mistake. He is such a good man and I know the man I fell in love with is still there just hope he shows his face soon. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />