My WW and I 'made love' last night ( well, no kissing and hardly the greatest ever - but there anyway). Was this a LB$ deposit or withdrawal on my part ?

Obviously she wasn't forced or coerced BUT it wasn't "romantic" SF.

Does the simple fact that she can willingly make love with me mean anything positive or does it just mean she needed mechanical satisfaction and as her fog talk said the other day 'its just sex, not love - thats for OM'.

Wise head MBer opinions please....

Hi BP!

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> Does the simple fact that she can willingly make love with me mean anything positive or does it just mean she needed mechanical satisfaction and as her fog talk said the other day 'its just sex, not love - thats for OM'.
</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Bob, try not to read too much into this... If you enjoyed the SF, then GREAT!

Her comments of 'its just sex, not love - thats for OM' talk is just more fog talk... if she didn't want to have SF with you, then she wouldn't.

I had some SF issues when we first started rebuilding, and our MC told me to just take it what I could get w/o trying to read anything into it... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> . For me, I kept obsessing on whether or not I 'measured up' to any of her OM. Silly me, of course I was better! She stayed with me! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Again, enjoy whatever SF you and your W share... don't try to analyze it or find any hidden meanings... In time, the 'in-love SF' will return...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

RIF I am surprised at my ability to enjoy SF with my W: I had no thoughts of the OM ( who was her last partner before last night). I could only think of being close to her, giving and receiving pleasure which we did.

She didn't feel 'soiled' or anything as I expected. Just my lovely W. It gives me hope.

As you say she must've wanted to SF with me, so she can't be repelled by me. Also, she has NEVER dissociated love and sex before ( she avers to me that she's only ever loved 2 men and had SF with both - me for 22 years and OM 6 times in the last month).

I'm not expecting anything, just happy that deep down my WW considers me a valid sex partner.

And she is so lovely...

Thank you God. I reclaim my wife from that cheating reptile. May he never go near her again.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> And she is so lovely... </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">That's the spirit!!! Your W is lovely, no matter what she's done in the past...

Keep up the great work!

Semper Fi,
RIF90