Hi everyone....well i figure i need to move to this board from the recovery board. Its too depressing for the recovery MB'rs.

Anyway, i want to do a real good plan B.

Does anyone feel sometimes that plan B could backfire? H thinks, hmmm, this is good, now i can really get on with my life and OW. Maybe H thinks seems like she wants to get on with her life and the worst thought i had was, being forgotten.

What else can one be doing besides not seeing or speaking with H? Other Plan B tactics.

I would love to hear plan b success stories.
How long did you plan B?
Did your H live with OW, and for how long?

Thanks everyone.
A/C0810

Does anyone feel sometimes that plan B could backfire?
What do you mean by "backfire"?

Maybe H thinks seems like she wants to get on with her life
That is why a properly written Plan B letter is essential. You tell him specifically that you are waiting for him.

What else can one be doing besides not seeing or speaking with H?
Plan B is to remove you from the crapola of the affair, that is all.
Don't get confused at what "success" means in Plan B.
A successful Plan B will ensure that the bs does not deal with the ongoing affair. There are many people who have done a successful Plan B and never reconciled. Just as there are many who have reconciled.

I have been in Plan B for almost a year (in 2 more weeks). Plan B let me move on with my life and get over the constant drama. I broke Plan B 4 our 5 times in the year when WH came to my house to talk to me.

He hasn't changed at all - still has OW living with him. But I have changed, and do not miss him at all.

Hello A/C,

Plan B is also not about reviewing what your WH is doing,thinking or planning.In essence,yes,it does allow the WS to go full steam ahead with the OP in all manner of form.If they want to move in together,then go ahead.WS's then get a real chance to see what it is like to live with the OP in a more reality based situation instead of fantasy based occasional meetings,like what my WH has right now.

Take the time to improve yourself,spend quality time with the kids,do stuff you have put off before,whatever you can think of.

Your WH is not going to be able to forget you so easily unless he has a lobotomy.You have been married 19 years and have 2 children together and a history,things that the homewrecker has not yet accomplished with anyone least of all your WH.Not at this point.She is a jealous user who wants to covet your life.Let her try to meet and fill all WH's EN's.

I did Plan B for about 3 months.It helped me tremendously at a time when I really needed to be ptoected from my WH and his hurtful,selfish actions and statements.It was a blessing.

O

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