Dear Friends

8 years ago I started dating a girl married to a friend of mine. One month into the relationship I even paid for her to divorce the guy... Now 8 years later she is cheating on me and I love to have her back in my life... I made a big mistake then and I would like to know if is it possible for me to save my relationship?

We do have a lot of problems over the years,but I never thought that she could leave me someday.

She is so beautiful, but she was not mine at that time..And God knows all the things!Please any advise?

Lost in pain

Dear Lost In Pain,

Let me get this straight. You had an affair with the wife of a friend of yours. Then paid for her divorce. I hope you understand you're not going to get any applause for this. Unless your friend was beating her up and/or had a serious drinking problem.

Now this same woman is cheating on you. You say you want her back into your life - has she moved out to live with the OM?

This in fact means this woman is a serial cheater. Of course there is a chance for you of rebuilding a relationship with her, but this tendancy to cheat instead of working on a relationship has to be dealt with. Unless you're happy with some sort of "swinging" relationship, of course. That is your choice.

You'll find a lot of information on this website how to do have a good, loving and honest relationship. And what the best way is to convince your partner that a relationship with you is still a good option. If she is willing (in time) to work on your relationship anything is possible. Counseling would also be advisable.

Please give us more information here, as you are giving us little to go on and perhaps I have misunderstood certain things.

Dear Friend


She is living with OM right now? And she told me once when she goes to Argentina on vacation , she asking many times to God give someone special in her country, so she will never have come back to me.

What does it mean?

I need help!!!

Lost in pain

Dear Lost In Pain,

the same thing happened to my nephew. He had a girlfriend from Colombia but she didn't feel at home in his country. When she went back on a holiday to Colombia she fell in love with a local guy and she didn't want to come back.

Is this what happened to you? Did she move back to Argentina and does she live with OM there?
If your girlfriend really missed her home country it might be very hard to convince her to come back, even if she breaks up with OM.

I'm sorry you are in pain now. Try to take care of yourself, don't stay alone too much, try to go out and visit friends. The pain will get better.

Im sorry for your pain too! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

But YOU are yet another example of what happens when a relationship starts with lies and deceit.

I wish you had taken the oppurtunity of being a man with integrity and then you wouldn't be in this position right now......sorry not MUCh sympathy. And I am sure "your friend" isn't feeling much either......."we often reap what we sow"........sadly.

Blessings,
Atruheart