My love for him is draining fast. We got into an argument about my S playing football. He doesn't want to and I really didn't want him to either for many reasons: 1. he doesn't want to play 2. it is very time consuming (6 days/wk.) plus he plays baseball year round 3. OW's S played last year and is moving up to my S's age group and would most likely be on his team since they group them by area 4. I don't want to have to see my H almost every day because of practice

My H was super angry at me, saying that its all about me and what I want...I just sarcastically agreed (I know, LB)"Yeah, its ALL about me". It just floored me that he can't see that I have been almost completely selfless for over 7 months, forgiving his lies and betrayals, loving him when he doesn't love me, the list goes on.

It was so peaceful while he was out of town. I've lost so much respect, I can't even look at him. I don't know who he is anymore. I'm tired of loving and getting nothing back. Plan A did not work on him at all... his feelings for me haven't budged.

I'm not even upset that he's going...it feels like a relief. I'm not saying I don't want him to change his mind and decide to fix this mess, but I can't be around him anymore. I'm tired of putting on a front to all our friends that everything is A-okay. Only two of our close friends know what's going on.

And unfortunately, I don't think the board pres. is going to do anything about their A. He said he would, but he hasn't and their both still happily on the board.

Well, I would say that Plan A has worked, but it has just gone on way too long. When is he moving out?

This weekend...so he says. I'm sticking to my guns...it will be this weekend. What if he won't go, what do I do?

Why wouldn't he go?

Well, he's been saying he's moving out since last July. He hasn't yet. I think he wants me to tell him not to go, to change me mind, to appear weak. That's not gonna happen this time.

Good deal, I would certainly explain to him that you are expecting this and need for him to move. I know it is scary, Nid, but I promise you, you will feel so much better after a couple of weeks that you will be kicking yourself for not doing it sooner.

We talked tonight...he's moving out this weekend. He said he's sad about S. He asked me how I think S will take it. I said he will be hurt, obviously. Then he asked me if I had any ideas to help make it easier for him....um, how about make a commitment to your family for starters! No, just kidding. He is by no means ready for that. He needs to be on his own, away from us.

Do I give him the Plan B letter as he leaves? He told me we are closing on our house (re-financing) on Thurs. and I have to be there. What do I do? Just maintain minimal contact? It seems so weird to me that he went through with this re-financing....does that seem odd to anyone else? I mean why would you be interested in the future of our finances, if he doesn't plan on sharing it with me?

I would just hand him the Plan B letter as he leaves this weekend. You still have to see him at the refi, but you can keep it very formal, sign the papers, and leave. Then go completely DARK. Are you ready for it?

As Sponge Bob says, "I'm ready, I'm ready...." I will go DARK. My good friend will take care of any messages he made need. Is that okay?

What kind of messages would he need?