I posted the other day and I think that I worded thing wrong, I have not been speaking to OM but I was on the phone with him that's how H found out, Im trying so hard and I do want my marriage to work. H will say yes one day and no the next, What Im am asking is for a little inside from anyone thats has gone throw this, Belive me I know thats what I did was WRONG,PAINFUL,and ROTTEN, Is there anything I can say or do to maybe start to make it to another step, Im try not to push him but very scared, Went to see my therapist to day, Ask me how much more do I think I can take ( I said all of it) I did this to myself . Thank's for understanding the misworded stuff . Have Good Day , Im holding on

Hi again. Continue to have no contact with the other man. Then you must tell your husband how very sorry you are, and how you are planning on not letting anything like this happen again.

ihurt2
I don't think it's a matter of not telling the story right, it's a matter of your perception. Talking-hear me-talking to OM is a contuation of your affair with him. That's why your husband is reacting the way he is. Listen-talking to the om is still continuing the affair!

You say "I have not been speaking to OM but I was on the phone with him that's how my husband found out." How is talking on the phone not speaking? Do you see how silly that sounds? Do you see how your husband can't trust you because of your actions?

I'm sorry ihurt2 but if you continue to have any contact with OM whatsoever, whether you consider talking on the phone as not speaking (which blows my mind-what did you do-listen to each other breathe???) it is still participating in the affair. There will be no way for your marriage to recover and for your husband to trust you.

Listen-it is WRONG, PAINFUL & ROTTEN to continure to speak to OM, talk to him on the phone, listen to him breathe on the phone or have any of your focus to be on anything or anyone other than your husband, marriage and family.

I don't think anything was misworded, I think you're just not seeing things clearly. You are in denial that this relationship continues and if you don't snap out of it, your marriage will soon be history. Guaranteed.

Believer,

Thank you for the kind words, And I do tell him when we speak or see each other how sorry I am and I never want anything like this to happen to us again. Thank you for the support I need it But I will hold on and keep trying. Thanks