God, i want to email her so bad. I want to ask her how she lives with herself. I want to tell her she is filth. I want to tell her at least i can walk tall with my head in the air.

My H is talking legal stuff etc. with me., thanks a whole lot you, *****. I hope you burn in hell.


Your a cheater and a liar. You disgust me. You should be ashamed of yourself. I hope what goes around comes around.

I know it H's fault too, but we were in 2 yr recovery, and she looked him up. She should have left him alone, she knew he was back with his wife and trying to make it work.

He can tell her he wasnt happy the whole 2 yrs, but i dont believe, thats bull. His actions showed otherwise.

I am in plan b, and he wants to call and talk to me what should i do. Let the kids answer the phone. When he asks to talk with mom, what should they tell him.

I am shaking right now. Please help.
A/C0810

Well I don't think you should email her...or if you write it don't send it. ((hugs))..how very difficult this must be. I can't give you any advice but just wanted to give you a hug.

write it, pour your heart and your anger outin it, print it out, fold it, put it in an envelop and then place it in your drawer NEVER to be mailed ... will do no good anyway.

Don't email .. yes I know I emailed OW before I went to NC .. but all my really long and venemous letters went to my journal or in my file cabinet .. or placed on MB as a vent ... you can do that too.

way2

Let it out here. Every vengeful thought you need to express. But don't send it to her. Not now anyway. You be the classy woman you are. She and your H are so fogged out it won't get through anyway. The last day the OW in my case worked for H I confronted her. H kept trying to intervene and actually told me, in front of her, I wasn't being fair to OW. I couldn't believe it. I said, "Was it fair for you and OW to be having an A for months?" Trust me, your e-mail will fall on deaf ears. Your best revenge is to be the best you can be. If you can afford it call Steve harley for advice. Hugs to you! CV

AC post all your OW letters here. Vent here.

I sent a few pieces of correspondence to the OW. The drive to send it is strong with the BS, but I will tell you that the OWs don't have the intelligence (while OWs) to understand what you are saying. It is all babble to them. Right now they only understand the A (alien talk - <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> ).

It may help to know that the OW must hang onto whatever she can because her world is fragile. It is held together by a web of lies and she knows it. I remember the vm from PBR (remember her??? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> ), she left a vm saing 'remember WS, remember how bad L is.... remember she is not good for you, remember L is wicked and bad, L does not love you the way I do, etc..... babble babble babble....'

When I heard that vm I started to be offended, then reverse babble kicked in and I said to the WS..... 'you know what? PBR is right, I don't love you the way she does. I couldn't. It isn't love with true and righteouness. It isn't the kind that lasts but hey, if that's what you want, go for it.... oh by the way ws, PBR smells too.... I can tell it on you.' LOL!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Maybe you should work on your reverse babble techniques.

L.

As much as I know you want to send a scathing a**kicking email don't..... he will come to her defense like sir lancerlot, another poster (?- Sadlady) was warned not to talk or send email to the ow in her sitch, she didn't listen and it backfired big time for her. Buy a note book or a journal and vent their.... but not to her because all of your ws energy is going to be focus on them and he will see you as the instruder.

I am soooo with you A/C... want sooo badly to write my WH OW and ask her how she lives with herself knowing she has destroyed a perfect family! Knowing that my WH still loves me...I want to know how it feels like sleepoing with a married man while his wife is at home taking care of his three kids and cooking dinners?

BUT, I haven't..We are beyond these OW's...We dont care about them...they are filth to us...we are above them...sorry, but that is how I feel!

Take deep breathes! we can get thru this!

I have had fantasies about being alone in a room with OW and blasting her for an hour or so. And my H left her! What would I say? I would humiliate the crap out of her. I would go down their memory lane. I would tell her EVERY intimate detail that I found ouT from H. All the things she told him. I would quote the love letters she wrote to him. I would tell her I knew where they screwed and all the positions they screwed in. I would let her know that all the special memories she has have been told to me. I would tell het that IF she and H ever get together, if she ever screws with me again, she won't know what hit her. Her parents will get her love letter hand delivered by moi, and they will know she was "F"ing my H while my dad lay dying in the hospital. She's their little princess, and they will know it all. Wicked, huh?

Now I won't do that, but I will tell you this. If H and I get "D"ed the above will happen. She will not get off scott free.

OK, that felt good. Thanks for letting me post my revenge thoughts about OW on your thread. CV

A/C

I am with those who say write it but don't send it. I think you give her power over you if you do send it. I am for preserving your dignity and I think,IMHO, that "losing it" with her in an e-mail or in person only degrades you.

Say it here... we will understand and support you... you will be received with compassion and not disdain.

RE: H calling... if you don't want the children to be the go between send him a letter that outlines(if you haven't already) what he must do before you will speak to him...he's calling you...that means you have the power. I am sure this is very difficult for you.
H

thanks everyone for your replys

Last nite S was working on Wh's computer. He is coming for it. In the sign in names, S put

Cheater

Homewrecker

We all agreed we would leave it that way, so when he set it up in his new place, and turned it on with OW by his side, thats the first thing they would see.

But, i had a change of heart and told S to take it out.

But boy i felt like doing it.

A/C0810

A/C You are so cool, congrats on getting so far intact sorta. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

Yes I too visualised what I would say to OW, I even thought I put a caption onto a private pic of her on our PC. 6 weeks later H was printing stuff for client, woops, where does caption appear header of every doc printed.... ta da.

Don't do it. You are above the low tactics of such an individual. She will suffer in her head and heart. You don't need to degrade yourself to her level.

Think & share your thoughts here I know some wicked names, privvy only to those that matter, never to be used as ammo against me.

Let nothing go in writing that you would not be comfortable seeing printed in your local newspaper. Or read off the Alter on Sunday <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You Rock Girl