Look W we have to talk to get some bills straightened up.The roof is the my biggest concern,so suck it up so we can carry on and know where we stand.

WH


omG, HELP ME, he just sent this to me. i am shaking. Please hurry, help me.

ok, too late he just called and i was forced to talk with him, about the roof and bills.

now what, has this rruined my plan b.
what do i do now.

Oh God, i am so upset. I did not handle the call well. I said dont worry about us, and the roof , you dont care about us. He said yes i do, i just dont want to live there anymore.

A/C0810

"suck it up"? That's awful. What a jerk.

Did you agree to anything?

Your plan B is definitely not ruined. You do your best to avoid contact. You may not be able to help a little.

What gives with the roof?

Can you communicate through a go-between?

Be calm. I know that shaking feeling. I've had it. Recently. I don't know your story, but it sounds like you are very vulnerable to him.

GC

AC calm down .. you didn't break plan B ... he forced it on you.

Let me put it this way -- you are on a diet .. your h just tied you up and forced a whole Cheese Cake Factory Cheesecake down your throat (one slice is 2,000 cals)

tomarrow you will be back on plan B

<small>[ August 13, 2004, 10:29 PM: Message edited by: way2 ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Oh God, i am so upset. I did not handle the call well. I said dont worry about us, and the roof , you dont care about us. He said yes i do, i just dont want to live there anymore. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">yeah that "suck it up" comment demonstrated his care soooooo well. Your in pla D right.

It seems like he's trying to get you to waiver .. stay true to coarse and avoid all contact if you can ... can you get an answering machine to screen your calls?

way2

OK,,you talked to him.

That's ok....Plan B continues.

I think you did wonderful by not flying through the telephones lines and strangling him when he said "suck it up"!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Oooooh! "Suck it up" I hate that one, too! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

My WH says that to me every time I get teary-eyed when we've talked during this stupid A!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

LL

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by A/C0810:
<strong> Look W we have to talk to get some bills straightened up.The roof is the my biggest concern,so suck it up so we can carry on and know where we stand.

WH


.....Oh God, i am so upset. I did not handle the call well. I said dont worry about us, and the roof , you dont care about us. He said yes i do, i just dont want to live there anymore.

A/C0810 </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">AC, Don't be too upset. I know you are but you did not break anything. Remember plan B is about you not calling him. When he calls your attempts to divert them were good but realize that sometime you do have to discuss important issues.

Now how he choose to communicate with you was very disrespectful. He won't admit it now in his state of mind so you need to know he may try to do this again. You already see what he is capable of so you will be more prepared the next time. ok? We will help you.

You should not fear anything. You did not do anything wrong. It appears that you are still very sensitive to his calls hence the need to stick w/plan B. His ugly WS side is showing so you know you should stay in plan B. However, you are now learning how to plan B and deal with the necessary issues.

Depending on how you both handle this, you can deal with the 'real' issues and not anymore. You will be able to gauge how many 'empty calls' he will make afterwards to tell whether he is wanting to pull you back into the A mess to comfort his control level or not.

I suspect he is testing the waters under the disguise of the 'roof'. Is he correct that it warranted the call? If so, deal with it.

It will hurt less if you deal with it and go back to plan B. No additional help is needed. If that is too hard, let him speak via a 3rd party.

He will realize soon that the only one who stinks is him and not you. That will be a day of great realization for the foghead. Then you will be able to use these scenarios like you just went through to 'teach' without saying a word. It will help you feel better. You will not hurt as much or at all the next time. ok? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Hugz,
L.