Dear @@@:

I love you with all my heart, and want to spend the rest of my life with you.

As you already know, your affair with ***** has devastated me, caused me great pain. Your continuing the affair (after you supposedly ended it) is eating away at the love I have for you. Now I feel I must protect those feelings before they are completely eaten away.

I can no longer allow you to go back and forth between ***** and me. I have already paid too high a price to let this continue.

I want to be the person you WANT to spend the rest of your life with. I am working on myself to be that person. I think you can already see that.

Please respect my wishes to have no contact with you whatsoever, in any form. As soon as you have ended the affair with Tammy, I would love to talk with you about the future of our marriage.

If you have any questions about finances, or in case of an emergency, please contact #####. She has agreed to be an intermediary.

Love, K


INPUT??? Thanks, K

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by k72172:
Dear @@@:

I love you with all my heart, and want to spend the rest of my life with you.

As you already know I would leave this part out, he doesn't know this, your affair with ***** has devastated me, caused me great pain. Your continuing the affair (after you supposedly ended it)Leave this out...that is an LB is eating away at the love I have for you. Now I feel I must protect those feelings before they are completely eaten away.In order to protexct the love I have left for you, I must end all contact with you.

I can no longer allow you to go back and forth between ***** and me. I have already paid too high a price to let this continue.leave this out

I want to be the person you WANT to spend the rest of your life with. I am working on myself to be that person. I think you can already see that.leave this out, he may or may not have noticed, but dont assume it

Please respect my wishes to have no contact with you whatsoever, in any form. As soon as you have ended the affair with Tammy, I would love to talk with you about the future of our marriage.

If you have any questions about finances, or in case of an emergency, please contact #####. She has agreed to be an intermediary.

Love, K


INPUT??? Thanks, K </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">

<small>[ August 15, 2004, 02:41 PM: Message edited by: momto3boys ]</small>

Thanks MT3B

I have revised my letter with your suggestions.

What do you think about me calling the adultery cell phone so that WH knows that I KNOW he has it?

Thanks again... K

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by k72172:
Dear @@@:

I love you with all my heart, and want to spend the rest of my life with you.

As you already know, your affair with ***** has devastated me, caused me great pain. Your continuing the affair (after you supposedly ended it) is eating away at the love I have for you. Now I feel I must protect those feelings before they are completely eaten away.

I can no longer allow you to go back and forth between ***** and me. {add: I do not need this OW in my life, I have already paid too high a price to let this type of disrespect and pain continue to be put infront of me on a daily basis.

I want to be the person you WANT to spend the rest of your life with. I am working on myself to be that person.[i] (Replace with: Places of improvement for myself are already in progress}. [i]I think you (Others can already see that.

Please respect my wishes to have no contact with you (add: at this time) whatsoever, in any form. As soon as you have ended the affair with XXX, I would love to talk with you about the future of our marriage. (Replace with: After you have ended your affair with Ow and want to return to your family, we could talk about it .

If you have any questions about finances, or in case of an emergency, please contact #####. She has agreed to be an intermediary. (add: intermediary's phone#s

Love, K


INPUT??? Thanks, K </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">See my take is a bit different than Moms. To go the nice route and make it appear that it w/b all peaches and cream if he even utters he wants to return maybe a setup for many false recoveries. That's what I experienced and seen many times over.

Let him know you are a reasonable person but not a doormat. If he wants to come back the value must be shown by him. You have already done your plan A. You don't have to prove anything to him anymore.

JMHO,
L.

Thanks Orchid...

You guys are really helping me tweak this letter... I want it to be just right... to clearly say that I love him still, and do want him back, but not like this.

Have to go Plan A for this afternoon.

Question... if I mail the Plan B letter to him, he probably won't get it until Tuesday. Should I put it in his brief case so he finds it after he leaves here tonight or tomorrow?

And... I want to call the adultery cell phone again, to let him know I know about it. How about in the morning when he is on his way to work? He'll think it's the OW. Then I can tell him I put a letter in his briefcase.

Does this sound Okay??? K

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by k72172:
<strong> Thanks MT3B

I have revised my letter with your suggestions.

What do you think about me calling the adultery cell phone so that WH knows that I KNOW he has it?

Thanks again... K </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I dont think that you should call the number...it doesn't matter if he knows you know...he is still in the fog and once you go to Plan B he will figure it out! also, he may just give you more lies and more lies...

MT3B...

Thanks for your suggestions.

However, I do think I will call it in the morning and tell him that there is a letter in his briefcase (the plan B letter) since he would not get the letter for a couple of days if I mail it.

I do think he knows that I am the one who had called it this morning. He's acting very subdued this afternoon. I just acted normally.

He called a couple of hours before I went up to the shindig. But I rejected the call so it went straight to voice mail. Then he called our house phone. He asked if my cell was off, and I said I didn't know, that I hadn't looked at it yet today.

There are no lies he could tell me about having that adultery phone, and having it with him, or having it on. He said he was giving them back to OW last week. The jig is up!

Otherwise, do I just mail him the letter, and continue in Plan A until he gets it?

I have a little more work to do on the letter, then I will post it completed for approval.

Thanks everyone! K

Can you put the letter in his briefcase?