<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:39 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

Joe, I would try and calm down before you talk to her. And I would get your letter ready to deliver when the time is right. And just remember, most WS' are VERY CONFUSED so what she says today may change tomorrow.

Any more word from the OMW?

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:38 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

I think it's probably a good idea that you aren't too "available." Are you planning on talking to her at all? I think it might help if you talked to her so see what she is thinking and just responding in a cheerful, casual, "BUSY" manner. Listen to her for a couple of minutes and then ask if she can call some other time as you are on your way out the door.

I know it will be painful to talk to her, but if you refuse her calls before you have delivered a Plan B letter, it will seem like you are playing games. What do you think?

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:37 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by joe c.:
<strong>

It just hurts when her family tells me how happy she is, how this OM is Mr. Right in her eyes. WS says our relationship was over for a couple of years, she wasn't happy. </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">And a few weeks ago she was talking about "how happy" she was with you, Joe, and was buying a house with you. I can't tell you how many times I have seen a WS go from one extreme to the next in one day. It is just so common.

You simply can't throw in the towel or become discouraged about her mood de' jour. It may swing back to the other extreme next week. And it may not.

While there are no guarantees, I wouldn't put too much stock into her statements right now.

And I do think that when she calls, you should cut her off as you are "busy" but "glad to hear from her." Pleasant, pleasant, pleasant... Just ask her what she wants to discuss and suggest she try back tomorrow or the next day after 9. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

<small>[ November 22, 2004, 03:35 PM: Message edited by: joe c. ]</small>