Yes maybe the plan b, as Star*fish says is the best way to go now. He has witnessed you giving birth, has seen you at your best after little Peyton came home.

Maybe now is time for Plan B. Maybe this also will protect your love now. That is what I am afraid of, you losing that as I did with Paige's dad.

Durham -

I would like to say one more thing, no man could respect a woman who would shack up with him, while his wife was home pregnant with her first child. It is an aboration of humanity, of sisterhood. An affair is bad enough but when your wife is home pregnant, it is truly an aboration.

And if he can still maintain love for this woman and the evil relationship they have had, then he is not worthy to be your husband. When he comes back it should be on his knees, and forgiveness is something you are really going to have to work at, because that is where the trouble is going to lie. You were not on equal footing with him when he had this affair, so you were more of a victim than most BS's, if that is possible.

Only you know if he is worth ot, and maybe he is, but it is going to be up to you. The ball has to be in your court now. You now are on equal footing and can leave the feelings of "how can he do this to me, I'm pregnant" behind. Now you have the power, you have the gift of love, of family - make sure he is worthy of it. MAKE HIM PROVE IT FIRST.

<small>[ August 18, 2004, 06:52 PM: Message edited by: weaver ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>durham76: ......WH has initiated a NC agreement and as far as I know she understands. He has told her he wants to give a 100% to our marriage. </strong> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: That's what he said he told the OW. Not t/b trusted. Even if it is the truth, you can't be sure what she heard. WS and OPs have selective memory and hearing. He wants to give 100% what? Awwwhhh....note the incomplete thought. He is not specific. OW can then think, 100% A to totally turn the M off. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>durham76: .He told me today that he wants to spend the next few weeks giving it his all and seeing if he can find it. I guess he means love for me. He said if he doesn't find it we will go our separate ways and he will not string me along anymore. </strong> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: Does this sound like a guy giving a 100% of anything? You shouldn't be guessing what he is giving you, you both should know. You need to tell him that if you aren't satified with what he is giving, you won't string him along.

re: You just had a baby and don't need any of his A _ _ it!.


</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>durham76:
Peyton---August 11---7 11---21 1/2 inches---11:40am---brown hair---blue eyes---BEAUTIFUL</strong> </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Orchid: He sounds quite handsome. Congrats mom. U done good. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hugz,
L.