Believer,
You've been such a help to me....
Please dont try to reason with this guy...it will only drive you CRAZY. You seem to handle it alot better than me. I personally think filing is a good idea, only YOU know when ENOUGH is ENOUGH.

I used to wonder when I would know when to say WHEN...I think I'm nearing the point of no return as well. It's been almost 2 years for me as well, my only hesitation came from learning all of these MB principles and realizing all of the mistakes I've made.

Do you feel any guilt?

I'm beginning to feel almost NO GUILT and thats how I'm determining if its WHEN time for me.

Wisk out that WINE you may have to dance in that dress real soon lady <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Good luck today, believer. I have no advice for you, only good thoughts.

GC

Hey everyone, I feel GREAT! Filed today and I am so glad. I ran the race and fought the good fight, but have come to realize that there is nothing left to save.

It has been a long 19 months, but I did what I could do. I still hope WH has a good life, and told him so. But this guy is so far from the man I married that I don't even recognize him.

Yesterday, as I was watching the Olympics, there was a chick from Kenya running the marathon. Toward the end, it was a very close race. Then the camera panned in to the sidelines, where her husband was running with her, encouraging her, and just being there.

That kind of did it for me. I want a partner and a helpmate.

Believer,

Wow, what a chaotic few days you've had!

I know it's hard to make the decision you made, but a comment you posted sums up a good deal of what has been so absent in our lives:

I want a partner and a helpmate.

That's just it. We aren't asking for the moon here. We just them to be there along side us through life.

I wish you the best. You are one of the most optimistic, sweet ladies I've met on here.

LL

Believer, I am sorry thing turned out like this. But you've been such a great help to me and all of us here. Best wishes to you. Your WH has the greated lost. Shame on him.

Hello Believer,

I don’t think I’ve ever posted to you before, but I wanted to thank you for all you do here. You are so kind and welcoming, and are often the first to post to a new member. I wish I had the time and energy to provide more support here, and am always thankful when I see your name on a reply. You do so much good here. You are stronger than you realize. It’s not a roaring power, but a quiet, dignified strength.

I remember when you first arrived not so long ago, and I have followed your story. This man has placed such a burden on your life. How he can say the things he says and sleep at night is beyond me.

Just imagine all the good things you can accomplish with the stess of this man out of your life <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> . He does not deserve you, not even a little bit. You have the strength to get through this divorce. Please take care - Dru

Dear Believer

just dropping in to your 'thread' - see I'm getting the hang of this msg thingy - to see how you are after all the fog ville rubbish you have been putting up with? I just about fell off my seat when I read your STBX definition of the OW not living with him.....these people really are serious to aren't they when they say these things? Amazing!!

Love his idea of the vehicle worth $25000 still, hey why dont you offer it to him and say he can use his valuation of the asset ..lol sorry I know its not really funny. But if you dont laugh at their twisted logic it would drive you to insanity.

Well being a Friday night over here in Perth I am having a few Irish style ciders, changed from beer & wine tonight, slowly getting done to a dinner, but not to much, can't stand the headaches these days......... besides my princess (daughter) is a tea totaler & is watching the Olympics with me...W is actually pleasant to all, no nasty word between mum or D for days, woohoo, now my rugby match just came on so I'm watching the small telly now next to the PC.......hear the slight whisper of words between Mum & D in the other room, no screeching so far.
So you make sure YOU look after yourself and do all the right things you keep telling us newbies to do.
Hoping you are ok as much as you can be in the circumstances
Brotherly {{{HUG}}} from a slightly buzzed bloke

Aussie

Drucilla - Thanks. I plan to keep posting here to try to help others, the same way I was helped. Also the D board is kind of slow.

Aussie - Sounds like things are going well there. Good for you. Yep, WH really believes the stuff he is saying. I just finally got tired of hearing it. So I filed, and I feel great about it.